WS 467 Locktober

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WS 467 Locktober

 

Listeners on October 6, 2025 tuned in for a discussion about the internet viral Locktober. From mental chastity to choosing a good beginner chastity device, learn all about the month-long chastity celebration of October’s Locktober!

 

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I do so love my little chime. This is Whore School coming to you live. Tonight, we’re going to be talking about Locktober, because I just found out influencers are talking about Locktober, because they think that this is the perfect month to lock in on your goals.

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So, ah, that’s a thing. That’s a thing that happens. Huh.

Whore School is adult sex education. You will learn something, and that is a threat. It airs every Sunday evening from 11 to midnight on the East Coast, that’s Eastern Time, that’s 8 to 9 on the West Coast, Pacific Time, and if you’re somewhere in between, um, that is you.

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You get to figure that shit out. I’ve given you two data points. Figure it out.

My goodness. Okay. Adult sex education, because you’re grown-ass adults, and if you’re not a grown-ass adult, get the fuck out of here, man.

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Shoo. If you are listening to the live show, please go to communitykink.com. That chat room is open. There are people in there.

We’ve got Patty. Yes, the same Patty. And Tina Erin.

Patty said, wait, what? Always some wild shit I hear when I first log on. This time it’s influencers talk about Locktober for locking in your goals. Yeah.

Kylie has joined us in the chat. Hi, Kylie. So yeah, apparently you’ve got to really lock in on your goals and grind to get where you want to go.

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As a devotee of whatever is the opposite of grind culture. Lazy culture? Slack culture? Yeah, I’m good with Slack. No, we’re not going to grind.

We are going to talk about Locktober, though. What’s the phrasing? It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Don’t make me sing it because I will.

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Locktober followed by No Nut November followed by Denial December. I’m kidding. I’m mostly kidding.

It’s a joke because it’s funny. So, Locktober. People who are fans of chastity, I mean, we’re coming into the winter.

We’re in fall now. We’re firmly into fall. We’ve passed the fall equinox.

It’s autumn. Like, we’re there. We’re heading towards winter.

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People are, I mean, it’s October. It’s low-hanging fruit for the name of it. Kylie said, I celebrate pop and Locktober.

And Patty tells us that she celebrates this is kind of just a normal month for me and I’m too busy with university. That’s fair. For people who have too much time on their hands or not enough to keep themselves amused or who are just into it, Locktober is a month of chastity.

And people who are interested in long-term chastity might be thinking to themselves, you know what’s a good idea? Long-term chastity. Oh, no. See, Patty said I do some fun Halloween stuff, but I don’t go crazy.

I do. It’s Halloween. Like, come on.

This is our opportunity to be weird and freaky and awesome. Life is short. Break the rules.

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So if you contact me and you say, Mistress Harper, please lock me in chastity, I’m going to have a few questions for you first. Like, do you have a chastity device that fits well? Can any part of your anatomy poke through any part of that chastity device in a way that it’s not meant to poke through? Your balls are supposed to go through it. Your balls should be hanging through.

The rest of you, no. You should be inside the cage. Is it, um, how big are you when you are flaccid? And how big is the cage? Because some of these cage designs are not made for or meant for long-term chastity.

They’re not even meant for 24 hours worth of chastity. So cut it the shit out. So, um, what’s the longest amount of time that you’ve ever been locked in chastity? Because if your goal is 31 days in a row, great, good goal.

But you tell me that you’ve never been locked in chastity that long. Oh, that’s a problem. I, I want to set you up to succeed, not to fail.

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Patty’s over here going, we snuck in another chastity episode very closely after the last one. I know. I was looking at that earlier.

I was like, okay, so 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 weeks ago, I did a chastity episode. Whoops. That’s fine.

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So if you, uh, have never ever played chastity before, go listen to 462 Chastity Games, because that one’s about, you know, like chastity stuff. Hey, Sissy Addie has joined us here. Hello, ma’am.

Miss. Um, so that, that episode is more like the basics that you need to know about chastity. This episode is long-term chastity.

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They are different animals. Patty pointed out, it’s like this. Imagine trying to climb Mount Everest without doing any mountaineering training.

You are going to get really hurt. Yeah, so, um, femdom Fridays, last Friday, we wound up talking about chastity. And one of the, one of the points that I wanted to bring up, and I think we brought it up, but I’m not certain that, like, we didn’t hit it super hard because it’s not the kind of podcast where we go, and now a lecture.

It’s, you know, we’re, it’s a bunch of ladies sitting around shooting the shit. Um, some chastity devices are better than others for specific tasks. If what you’re looking for is a couple hours of humiliating fun, great.

Go for an inverted cage. If what you want is Locktober, oh dear God, please get a, not one of those, not a foo-foo clip, not a button chastity device, not an inverted fucking chastity device. Do not do that to your dick.

Do not. Just no. Yeah, this is, this is the more, like, if, if what you’re interested in is having an awful lot of fun, great.

Chastity’s fun. You should explore it. If what you’re interested in is long-term chastity, and long-term chastity for this purposes is, that’s Locktober, a whole month of don’t touch yourself.

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Hmm. Okay. The reason why I’m saying that a whole month is long-term, it’s because be honest with yourselves, dear, sweet listeners, everyone out there in the internet who’s listening to this, every single one of you, you’re all listening.

I know you’re out there. I know that you’re like paying attention and you’re doing your stuff and you’re having an awful lot of fun. How often do you touch your dick? How often do you masturbate? Be honest about this.

People’s libidos are different. Some people masturbate every day. Some people masturbate multiple times a day.

Some people only jerk off once a week. If you want to go from, I touch myself every single day to, and now I’m locked in chastity for a solid month. Oh, honey, you’re not going to have a good time.

You’re not going to have fun with that. That’s going to suck. Patty is admitting that she is in the multiple times a day camp.

Maybe. Yeah. That’s probably why chastity does not appeal to you.

If you masturbate a lot, chastity is probably not going to be a whole lot of fun. For some people who feel like maybe they masturbate, quote, too much, unquote, they might be thinking that chastity could help with that. Yeah, sure.

Kinda. I don’t generally recommend trying to go cold turkey on anything that you may be psychologically or physically addicted to for multiple reasons. Miss Addie says, or, or hear me out here.

It’ll be a great opportunity to get inventive and explore other fun areas on your body. Yes. Speaking from experience, you have to build up to long term chastity.

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Patty says from chastity to addiction therapy. Welcome to Whore School. Yeah, this is how we roll here.

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It’s because there is a certain nonzero subset of men who either are deathly afraid that they are addicted to sex, sexuality and pleasure and masturbation, or who wish they were addicted to sex. It’s a whole thing. There’s a thing about that.

So every time I mentioned being addicted to masturbation, there’s a part of me, like in the back of my head going, that’s not really a fucking thing. And then at the same time, knowing that no, no, while the vast majority of people who are like, I’m addicted to sex are not, they’re not actually addicted to sex. They’re, they just are dramatic.

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Patty said, wait, did I hear that right? Wish you were addicted? Like hoping to develop an addiction? Then she says, you know what, nevermind. Yeah, look, the puritanical roots in modern American culture run real fucking deep, and they’re real fucking dumb. It’s really fucking dumb.

It does not meet the oftentimes when people say I’m addicted to masturbating, I’m addicted to cocksucking, I’m addicted to sex, whatever it is, it does not meet the clinical definition of addiction. Like it’s, no. But remember that the general rule of thumb is if it is a problem for you, then it is a problem and it’s worthy of addressing.

The problem for all of us, purity culture and motherfucking John Calvin, that prude. Sissy Addie said, it’s like me with my panties addiction. Yeah.

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So that fucking prude John Calvin has gotten like, there’s this underlying idea that if you enjoy sex too much, it’s bad. And I don’t, there’s no such thing as too much, like too much pleasure. Okay, that’s too much fresh air.

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Like, I just was watching a bunch of tech talks and the guy who always throws his glasses across the room, like I’m so tempted to just start flinging my my glasses across the room because seriously, that’s fucking annoying. There’s no such thing as too much happiness. Anyways.

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Yeah, no, Patty said for for a period of time, I thought I was addicted to masturbation because of the multiple days thing. And we were the ones who to clue me in that it wasn’t actually that bad. Yeah.

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Tina forgot that. The space in my username. Girl.

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Okay, so if it’s a problem, it’s a problem. If it’s not a problem, fuck it. You’re fine.

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As long as you can manage all the things in your life that need to get taken care of. Who’s a fuck? But yes, if you want to go from I masturbate multiple times a day to locked in chastity, you are not going to have a very good time. By the time day number, say, three rolls around.

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You’ll fail, you will unlock that chastity device. I’ve seen it happen. So many times, for most people who have never been locked in chastity for longer than 24 hours, three days is a really long time.

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Like, if that’s your goal, locked in chastity for three whole days, great, that’s a meetable goal. Short enough that you can actually get there. Long enough that, oh yeah, you know what chastity is like now.

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Oh yeah, you’re going to start feeling it in the middle of day two. And it’s going to drive you bonkers by the time day three is over. Like, hmm, trust me.

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Voice of experience, I have watched it happen so many times. And you may be tempted to be like, well, I can last one more day. Can you? Hmm? Can you? Hmm? I… I support you.

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Well, let’s last one more day. Sure. That’s a fun challenge.

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I’m just saying. Just putting that out there. Just reminding you.

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So if you really, really, really, really, really want to try Locktober, may I suggest Mental Chastity. Just don’t touch yourself. No masturbation.

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You don’t have to have a chastity device to be in chastity. Chastity is refraining from masturbation or sex. Or both.

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And it is refraining from. So you can’t really be said to be chaste or in chastity if you can’t masturbate because say you broke both your arms. Right? You’re not refraining from masturbation.

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You literally can’t. So if you take a medication that has resulted in, like some medications will tank your libido and you’re just not interested and so you don’t masturbate. That’s also not chastity.

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You’re not in chastity and you’re not being chaste because you haven’t chosen to refrain. You took a medication that had a side effect. If you weren’t on that medication in the same situation and the urge arose, you would choose to indulge.

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It’s the choice that makes it into chastity. Right? Patty says, I think I remember you saying something about not worrying about the length of time and focusing more on how much you’re skipping. Like if you only masturbate once per week, then a full month is a good challenge.

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If you masturbate three times a day, two days is skipping six sessions. And she says, I don’t know if I’m misremembering that at all. That’s a pretty good rule of thumb.

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It’s individualized. It’s based on how sexually active are you? How often do you masturbate? How long does it last when you masturbate? Are you a king of the quickies? Is this all two minutes and you’re done? Are you shooting off all the time? Or how many hours a day are you spending touching your dick? Tina says, I’m doing a pause right now. The cage was painful this night.

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Yeah, if it hurts, stop. Patty says, I guess technically I’ve done mental chastity. For the days I’ve done phone sessions, I didn’t masturbate for the whole day beforehand because I kind of wanted to guarantee I’d be horny for the call.

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Yeah, that’s mental chastity. You have chosen to refrain. That’s the phrasing that we need.

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You’ve chosen deliberately to refrain from masturbation or sex for a set period of time. You don’t need a chastity device to be chaste, to be in chastity. You just need to not jerk off.

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Stop touching it. So some people find chastity devices painful, restrictive, annoying, expensive. Like there’s a bunch of reasons why some people are like, no, I’m not gonna buy a chastity cage because yikes, it sounds like a terrible concept.

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That’s fair. You can do mental chastity. And in fact, if you’ve never ever engaged in chastity before, try mental chastity first, dumbass.

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I mean, I love you. I like, I respect you. And I want to support you in all of your sexual goals.

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But I also want to help encourage you to make smart decisions. And sometimes the smart choice is just don’t jerk off. Just stop for a little bit.

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Look back over your life, and then determine what’s the longest amount of time that you’ve gone without masturbation. How long can you last? Kylie said 47 minutes. And Syl-day-gus, Syl-day-gus, I’m gonna learn how to speak fucking Gaelic, said three days.

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Okay, double that. Kylie’s gonna be aiming for an hour and a half. Syl-day-gus is gonna go for like six days, maybe a week.

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That’s a good challenge. That is a challenge to get you there. Kylie says, I’ll be done by midnight.

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Just be honest with yourself about how long you can last before you give in, and then push that a little bit. Just try it for like a day. Syl said, I jacked off eight times in seven hours the first time I saw Jenna Jameson.

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Patty said, I think the longest was four days. Although it was because I was on a trip with family, and there was literally no alone time or space. So I’d call that an outlier.

Yeah, but it still fucking counts. You made it through four days, and it did not cause you to spontaneously combust. Like it didn’t completely destroy you right off the bat.

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You were okay. You made it through. That’s the important part.

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There are people, and there have been clients that I’ve spoken to who have been in chastity for much, much longer than just 30 days. Much longer than 30, like years. Years.

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And some of these people were not what I would call a person with a low libido. Libido. Libido.

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Urge. Syl said, anyone who goes more than four days without ejaculating is going to end up a Catholic priest. It’s not that hard.

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It’s not that difficult. And also priests are allowed to masturbate. Yeah, Kylie said the only time I was ever in chastity was in college.

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If I could do it with my 19-year-old libido, I would think my libido would make it much easier now. And Patty’s afraid of years of chastity. And the kind of person who could do that.

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It’s not that difficult. It’s not hard. It’s just some people have different goals, different things that they want to accomplish.

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Some people find being in chastity comforting. That’s fair. They’re allowed.

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Patty said, of course it’s not hard. You’re in a cage. But what about the difficulty? Well, it’s not difficult either.

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Sometimes people who are interested in exploring chastity, they only want to play with this idea for a couple hours. That’s fine. Some people really want to explore the idea of letting someone else control and own their sex and sexuality, their masturbation.

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And their literal genitalia. Some people get off on that. Some people enjoy the idea of being the one who owns and controls and directs all of that.

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Patty said, sometimes I think I’m the most asexual, hypersexual person out there. Because I really like sexy stuff and I’m rather slutty, I suppose. But I’m really cool with being without sexy time.

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Some people go, OMG, I haven’t had sex in three months. I’m going insane. And I’m just, huh.

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And Zealda wants to know if I like to be in control. Yeah, duh. Tina said, this holiday I’ve done a trekking trip with sleeping in a tent and I didn’t masturbate for two weeks.

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Apparently the idea that I like to be in control made Zealda’s dick hard. We don’t have that kind of a relationship. So, hmm.

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Different people have different levels of libido. I keep saying it like that, libido. So, for example, Miss Addie, who, it varies.

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Very dirty, very slutty. Perfectly okay with not fucking for a while. Great.

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And then there’s Patty, who apparently touches themself a lot. And I would bet that Zealda also jerks off a whole lot. I’m just guessing here.

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Wherever it is that your level of libido is, that’s going to tell you how difficult chastity would be for you personally. If you really want to challenge yourself, if you really, really want to challenge yourself, mental chastity is where it’s at. Addie said, serious though, years without sex.

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Is that ludicrous and unhuman? Nope. Asexual people exist. Mad respect to asexual people.

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I have a friend of mine who is very asexual. They do not want to have sex with people because it’s gross. They masturbate.

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But they also have a very low libido. So, they masturbate like once a month. And I was talking with them.

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They said that the last time they had sex was in 2004. So, 21 years. And Addie said, of course, for non-asexual people.

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It’s a scale. It’s a spectrum. It’s not a binary on or off.

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It’s a spectrum in between. Ranging from people who are perfectly okay with never fucking. And then people who can’t go more than like an hour without touching their junk.

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And most people are somewhere in between. And even people who have a high libido can learn to be okay with not acting on it. They don’t have to act on it.

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And they can be perfectly okay if they don’t act on it. If they’re chased. Addie was talking about there was some sort of a Netflix show.

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A Netflix reality show where the only premise was for people to not have sex. As if that’s hard. It’s so hard.

Oh my god. We’re just horny all the time. And Addie said that show was kind of insensitive to ace people.

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Like, imagine how challenging it is to not fuck. As if that’s the default for everyone. And when Patti said it was too hot to handle.

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And it was deeply weird. Well, hey, look at that. Prisoner de Camarie has joined us in here.

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Howdy. Ms. Addie said, I would totally have sex daily. Multiple times a day, really.

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But I could survive without it. I mean, sex is on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. But I think it’s a misnomer.

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I think it should be intimacy. And I think that it more encompasses things like emotional intimacy. And maybe hugs.

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Because a lack of sex is not going to make you drop over dead. It’s not on the level of if I don’t have access to water, eventually I die. Right? If I don’t have access to sex, you just get sad.

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Which sucks. But it’s not anywhere near on the same level. And Tina said, I think the last time I had penetrative sex was 12 years ago.

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But I’m good with masturbation. Yeah, I mean, you can get all the good positive benefits of sex through solo sex. You touch yourself.

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You got it. You got to get okay with self-love, babies. But if your goal is chastity, and you want to play with Loctober, masturbation is also off the table.

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I’m sorry. Kylie said, I did a reality show where nobody had sex. It was called an All Boys Catholic School.

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And prisoner said, actually, Kylie, I bet some of those boys did have sex. Yeah, they probably did. I mean, come on.

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They gay. Addie is shocked. She said, wait, what? It is what? Which part? She says, I thought it was just the cage.

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Yeah, no masturbation. Some people, like, actual, actual chastity is no masturbation. No sex, no sexual pleasure.

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Like, to be chaste is to choose to refrain from sex and masturbation. She says, but, but, but stuff is cheating. I said, well, I can masturbate with a vibrator on a cage.

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So, yeah. Let’s go there. I think this is just a silly challenge.

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Okay, so the, the strict definition of chastity to refrain from sex and masturbation. Some people do still masturbate despite being locked in a chastity device. Technically, they’re just using a chastity device in order to change the way they masturbate.

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They’re still masturbating. They still get off. They’re just locked in chastity while they do it.

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Or more accurately, they are locked in a chastity device while they’re doing it. And that opens a different conversation altogether. And this is when I start to tell you all about butt stuff.

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Okay, I practice tantra. Like, Vajrayana. Tantra.

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It’s nowhere near as much sex as you think. I mean, let me get out in front of that. Western tantra is sex.

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It’s fucking, it’s lots and lots of fucking, like, vague veneers of mindfulness. Gooped on top. People who have a penis and testicles, when they practice tantra, a big part of tantra is semen retention.

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Now, this is because tantra draws a line between ejaculation and orgasm. See, a prisoner said tantra is a fancy word for foreplay. Incorrect.

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You’re wrong. Tantra is Vajrayana. It’s one of the three major schools of Buddhism.

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It is an entire ass religion. And a set of spiritual practices. So, in tantra, ejaculation, the juice comes out your nuts, squirts through your dick.

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And orgasm, feelings of ecstasy, are two different things. And it turns out they really are two different things. And I can prove it to you.

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That’s a good attempt at spelling that, Tina. I’m going to type this in. Vajrayana.

V-A. V-A-J. Vajrayana.

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Let me make sure that I actually spelled that correctly. Yep, I sure did. V-A-J-R-A-Y-A-N-A.

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Vajrayana is tantric Buddhism. It’s a major branch of Mahayana Buddhism. The goal of Vajrayana, as is the goal of any of the major schools of Buddhism, is to attain enlightenment.

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The sexy parts of tantra? That’s because Western people are fucking perverts who are deeply repressed because of fucking John Calvin. Patty’s like, I’m not interested in this. Okay.

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So, ejaculation and orgasm are two completely different things. And I can prove to you that orgasm and ejaculation are different things by locking you in chastity and playing with your prostate. You will not get hard.

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You will not ejaculate in the same way that you normally do. You can orgasm, though. Especially if I shove an Easton probe up your ass and goose you just right.

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You’ll come. Actually, if I shove an Easton probe up your ass and goose and electrocute the hell out of your prostate, you will also ejaculate and it’ll probably feel pretty intense. For truly learning how to orgasm without ejaculation, we’re gonna have to get you very, very horny.

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And keep you that way for a couple hours while slowly building you up and guiding you through some very specific breathing patterns while you’re locked in chastity. And in this particular case, the chastity cage is there to be a tool to help you. It’s like training wheels so that you can get past the tendency to get very, very horny and then touch your dick.

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If it’s locked in a device, what are you masturbating? Nothing. You’re gonna sit here and you’re going to breathe deeply while feeling all sorts of fun things until you orgasm or attain enlightenment. Whichever comes first.

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Yes. Technically, chastity is about refraining from sex and masturbation. And Tina said, oh, that made me tingle.

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Yeah, it’s supposed to. So refraining from sex and masturbation doesn’t necessarily mean refraining from orgasm. And one thing that an awful lot of people like to do, especially in the West, this is not tantra, by the way.

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Some people might call it tantra, but they’re using words wrong. Some people like to be locked in chastity so that then they can, oh, say, put a vibrator on the cage. That provides stimulation and play with their butt until they make a sissygasm.

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They have a prostate-based orgasm or a penetration orgasm. Oftentimes, all of those do result in some form of ejaculation, which means it’s still not tantra. Tantra is about semen retention.

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You do not ejaculate. You can orgasm, but you cannot ejaculate. They’re different fucking things.

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For the vast majority of people, especially in the West, in America and Canada and Europe, us white people, orgasm and ejaculation are the same thing. They don’t have to be. This is why women can be multi-orgasmic, because we don’t ejaculate.

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If we do, we squirt, which is physiologically the same as ejaculation. It’s just we don’t have external testes to spew forth lots and lots of gametes. We have internal gametophores that produce eggs, usually only one at a time.

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Bye, Zelda. So, it’s slightly easier for women to practice tantra than it is for men. Fun side effect, though, is the fact that the reason why in tantra men are supposed to practice semen retention is because it is a believed within that cultural societal structure.

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The belief is that a man’s vitality, strength, and power are in the literal semen. And that when he ejaculates, he loses strength, vitality, and power. And if he ejaculates into a woman, he gives that strength, vitality, and power to the woman, instead of keeping it all for himself.

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Shooting eggs would look cool, though. We do that once a month. It’s the kind of joke that’s probably literally only funny to me.

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It’s a menstruation joke. Tina said, now that you talk about squirting, I wonder if you have a refractory period like ejaculation after squirting. Some women do.

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Some women can just keep on going. It does dehydrate you pretty good, though. Like, it’s a lot of fluid.

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You’re going to be thirsty afterwards. It’s not pee. Although I will point out to you, if you go look up squirting porn on whatever your favorite porn site is, there’s a non-zero number of those that are not actually squirting.

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Put a name out there. Anyway, moving quickly along. Yes, technically there is a refractory period.

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Patty said, we’re all over the place with topics tonight. I know. Welcome to Whore School, where you’re going to learn something.

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I don’t know what exactly you’re going to learn, and it may not be the lesson that I thought I was sitting down to teach. Patty said, we’re all over the place with topics tonight. I counted seven.

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Yeah. Tina said, well, usually it’s Patty who derails the show. Right? Okay, so chastity involves refraining from sex and masturbation.

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Some people use a chastity device in order to masturbate in very specific ways. Because anal orgasms are easier to attain when you use a chastity device. That’s why.

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Okay, so does that still count as chastity? It depends on how much of a purist you want to be with your definitions. If you want to be an absolute purist with your definitions, then yeah, if you lock yourself in chastity and fuck yourself in the ass until you squirt everywhere, that doesn’t count. You’re just very dirty.

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You’re a pervert. You are a fetishist. God love you.

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Yeah, like, yes, love that. Please use your chastity device in non-standard ways. I’m here for it.

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If you are a definition purist, don’t play with that ass. That counts. Tina said, I was searching for the Locktober definition, and Wikipedia has a page for Locktober.

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Yeah, it’s a cultural phenomenon. Hattie said, every question could be boiled down to does X count as Y, where X and Y are literally anything. And the answer to all of those questions is, it depends.

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Yeah, it depends on how broadly you define your terms. There’s a reason why an awful lot of the Whore School episodes, I start off by defining the terms. One, so that we all know what I mean when I say words.

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And two, because otherwise we are floating in a sea of one, miscommunication, and just also, anything could be anything. Tina said, from Wikipedia, search interest in Locktober has climbed steadily since 2016, with Google Trends showing that 2024 has generated nearly double the engagement of prior years. Part of that is because, remember at the very beginning of the episode, I said, Locktober is not what influencers online want you to think it is? It’s because last year, and this year, a whole bunch of people on TikTok were like, it’s Locktober, time to lock in on your goals.

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Nope. No. Hattie says, I’m taking discrete math, and part of that is defining sets and lists of things to use for proofs.

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Like, I’m not kidding, defining terms to use for understanding is actually something that’s part of my class. I love formal logic. Like, I’m a fan of formal fucking logic, and using the rules of logic to help with getting very clear about what I want to communicate.

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Tina said, haha, did the TikToker stumble onto BDSM, Locktober? I think they probably saw the word somewhere, and were like, I could use that, and they just went for it. And there was more than one influencer who was talking about, like, it was really, really big, especially in the bodybuilder community. So it’s a bunch of gym bros, and like fitness TikTokers, who are like, it’s time to lock in on your goals for Locktober.

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I remember this, last year, laughing my fucking ass off. Because, god, that was fucking funny. Yeah, sure, Locktober and No Nut November is about avoiding soy milk and almond milk.

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Because it’s no nut, right? No nuts. Just avoid them. I don’t fucking know.

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If they actually pick that up and run with it, I quit. I’m done. PrisonerDeKayMarie says, no coconut, either.

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Oh, god. Ugh. So, let’s say that you have now accepted and you understand.

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Locktober is about chastity. Not locking into your goals. I mean, you can.

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Sure. Sure. All the rest of us are going to be laughing at you for that, because it’s fucking funny.

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Oh, god. If you have never explored chastity before, you should. Especially, and this is just my personal philosophy on life.

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If there is something out there that makes you especially, like, anxious or scared or nervous, but it won’t hurt you in any way whatsoever. Dude. Try it.

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She just said, I’m locking to my goal to go full month in chastity. Heck yes. Yes.

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Okay, so if you are, like, the thought of, just don’t masturbate. If that makes you feel anxious, if it scares you a little bit, then lean into that. Do that.

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You know, just go for it. Identify for yourself what’s the longest amount of time that you’ve been able to personally last without jerking off. Can you go a little bit longer? I think it’s a personal challenge.

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It doesn’t hurt you. It might feel like discomfort. But honestly, as part of your everyday routine, learning to tolerate discomfort is kind of a very important life skill for adult human beings to have.

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Discomfort tolerance is a thing. Patty said, don’t get your sex advice from random people online. Except Ms. Harper.

She doesn’t count. Damn straight. I’m not a random person online.

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I’m me. So, okay. You should learn to tolerate discomfort and you should learn to tolerate boredom.

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The way that social media is set up nowadays, you can just doom scroll for hours on end and see something new every time you move your thumb. New, new, new. Boredom is something that you need to be able to tolerate without feeling like you’re going to rip your own skin off.

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Just as a fucking human being. If you cannot tolerate boredom or discomfort or the vague sensation of, hmm, I’m horny. Just picture me holding your hands very gently and looking you right in the eyes and telling you that you have a problem.

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You have got to get okay with boredom, discomfort, and feeling vaguely horny. So, try to expand the length of time that you can comfortably last between masturbation sessions. Work on reading long form fiction.

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Possibly in the form of an actual physical book that you got from the library and you can only have for two weeks. So, you need to hurry up and finish this so you can give it back without getting a fee. Sit quietly in a quiet room for extended periods of time and get comfortable with your own fucking thoughts.

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Entertain yourself. Think deep thoughts about stuff. Maybe pick up a copy of Kant or Kierkegaard or Scanlon at your local library.

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It’s complex. It’s dense. It’s wordy.

Oh, it’s difficult to read. You’re probably going to be bored. Read it.

Think about it while not masturbating. Get comfortable with discomfort. And that includes chastity.

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S has joined us in here tonight. Just pop in right at the end. Patty said, I was so close to going the whole episode with no confrontations from Miss Harper Explains How and Why I’m Doing Life Wrong, but damn it.

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She says, I thought I was safe. You’re never safe. Not from me.

Dun, dun, dun. Okay, so this is why you should try long-form chastity, even if the idea of that makes you uncomfortable. Tough shit? Do it anyway.

It’s good for you. Whore school is adult sex education. Please head to our Discord server and join us over there at discord.gg slash Enchantrix Empire.

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Come play with us. We don’t bite unless you ask us to. Check out my blog, fetishphonesexblog.com. It is also Halloween.

That means the Halloween blog train is going. And if you haven’t been following along, what the fuck is wrong with you? Go to mistressofmore.com with Miss K. Marie. That’s where it started.

Follow the links. They’re all linked together. It’s spooky, fun erotica.

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Whore school is adult sex education focused on no shame, no guilt, no fear. Well, maybe a little bit of fear. You’re allowed to be slightly afraid.

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Yeah, I’m Harper. Thank you guys for listening tonight. I want to lock you in Shasta because it’s fun.

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Thank you all for listening and I will see you all again next week. Good night.

 

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