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WS 485 Cuckolds In Depth
On February 8, 2026 Mistress Harper talked about the often misunderstood Cuckold Fetish, and went in depth on it, too. You’ll learn all aobut vocabulary terms you may encounter in the cuckold world, like wittol, hotwife, and even the origin of the term ‘cuckold’ itself! There were minor side tracked discussions, but they wound up feeding back to the main discussion handily. Extra fun was had as Ms Harper explained Medieval debate poetry! Don’t worry, it was topical.
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You gotta love it when you hear the chime go off. This is Horror School. I am Harper.
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That’s why it’s not open all the time. There are perverts. And if we left it open and unattended, there would be perverts in it.
So yeah, welcome to Horror School. We’re gonna discuss cockles tonight because cock cock. Yeah, I think I’m funny when I say shit like that.
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So did you guys watch The Superb Owl? Did you watch that? I don’t know who won. I don’t even know if it’s still going on or not. That’s how plugged in I am.
Let me let me look real quick. Super Bowl. I know it started at 430.
I think it is over. And the team that I was kind of low key rooting for seems to have won. That’s good.
I think it’s over. Yes, it is over. Okay.
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All of all of the you know, the top stories are Bad Bunny, Super Bowl commercials, Green Day, Super Bowl MVP. I don’t know who that is. And I don’t particularly care.
Sports. So the Seahawks, the Seattle Seahawks won. And that’s who I was rooting for.
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Given my cursory, very surface level understanding of the football game. That’s the extent of it. That’s all that I know.
I was rooting for the Seahawks. Like as apparently the owner of the Patriots makes political contributions to things that I don’t like. So that’s why.
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Patty said, I’m not even going to pretend to understand most sports. Yeah. I knew somebody one time who was super into football, and they tried to explain it to me.
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They were like, well, this is the like, like, really deep into strategy and things. And so they were attempting to explain, you know, intensive strategy about football, when I don’t know the names of the positions. I was like, you’ve got to dial that back.
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The enthusiasm is nice, but also you got to dial that back considerably because I don’t know anything about this. So far in the chat room tonight we have Mott, Patty, Sissy Addie, Sissy Terry, and Tina. Hi guys.
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Yes, Addie said the Seahawks have pretty colors and the symbol is kind of cool, right? The symbols neat. I like the symbol. It’s pretty.
They won. Yay. There was a good halftime show.
Yay. I will be looking that up online later, by the way. So let’s discuss cuckolds.
You may be wondering to yourself, what the fuck’s a cuck? Oh boy, oh boy. Brace yourself. A cuckold, technically speaking, a cuckold is the husband of an adulterous wife.
A man whose wife is unfaithful. That is the cuckold. It has its roots.
It’s an English word. It’s referring to the cuckoo bird. The cuckoo bird practices brood parasitism.
They lay an egg in a nest that they didn’t make. They didn’t build that nest. They laid an egg in it.
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A different bird hatches that egg and then feeds the offspring. The pictures of it are hilarious because the bird that they lay the nest in is teeny tiny and then the cuckoo is huge. So I always think of it as like, you know, these cute little warblers are like, wow, we’re really good at raising children.
Look how big our offspring has gotten. And the thing is like three times the size of the bird that’s feeding it. It’s hilarious.
So cuckolding. God, it’s a mess, y’all. Because we’ve got so many different layers of meaning into it.
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Hey, Mistress Meshelle has joined us tonight. Hi, Miss Meshelle. What up? Good evening.
That’s Miss Meshelle. She’s hot, y’all. I just want you to know, Miss Meshelle is very sexy.
So there are layers of meaning that are surrounded by when we start talking about cuckold stuff. It’s not just in modern terms, it’s a man whose wife is fucking another dude. Although that is the historical meaning of the term.
Addie says, so the cuckold is the poor fellow dealing with other people’s offspring? Rarely. Although technically, yes. Historically, yes.
In modern terms, birth control exists. So no, I hope not. Maybe.
That’s why I’m saying there are layers. There’s stuff going on here. It’s always fun when I get a message really late at night.
I’m like, wait, who’s talking to me? Why are you talking to me? He said, wait, birth control or bird control? And Patty says, cuckolding is super varied. And some of it is not as nice as some of the other stuff. Yeah.
As with most things in life, it can be really, really fun or questionable. It could be very questionable. Sometimes people are into things that other people are significantly less into.
And that’s perfectly okay. You’re allowed to be into things that other people find weird. That’s cool.
And there’s somebody out there who thinks that whatever the thing is that you’re into is a thing that they could also be into. Which is fabulous when you can find somebody else whose freak matches your freak. Oh, yes, please.
Hello. Hey, Chris has joined us in here. Terry said, I’ve been both consensually and non-consensually cuckolded.
And the non-con is not fun. Oh, that part would suck. Maud is bringing up tentacle dildos.
Yes, as a thing that some people are into and other people are not. Yes. And Patty said, if it’s non-consensual, that’s just cheating.
Right? And Addie said, is there an equivalent term for if the woman who’s cheated? Technically, the woman is the one fucking. So if it’s the other way around, if it is the man who is unfaithful, rather than the woman who is unfaithful, that would be a cuckween. Instead of a cuckold.
A cuckween. Cuckween. I’m gonna type it into the chat room so you guys can see how it’s spelled.
Queen. Queen. There’s an A in it, which is counterintuitive because you’d think it’s cuckqueen.
Like queen. Right? The no. Q. So C-U-C-K-Q-U-E-A-N.
Cuckween. Cuckween. So, yeah.
It’s, well, Patty said, damn my inability to spell. It is, it’s not that you have an inability to spell. It’s that it’s an unintuitive word.
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It’s pronounced cuckqueen, which you would think queen. Right? But it’s not. It’s different.
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One of our new chatters in the chat room wants to know what my take is on a smoking fetish. I don’t participate in the smoking fetish. My favorite uncle passed away from cancer, from a lifetime of smoking.
And so I just, I can’t mess with that. I’m sure there are other people who do enjoy the smoking fetish. I don’t.
So, sorry. Terry said only when on fire. So, uh, cuckolds.
There’s also a thing you, you’ll probably run across a whole bunch of interesting vocabulary terms when you start looking at, uh, cuckolding, including the phrase whithold. W-I-T-T-O-L. Whithold.
Or whithold. W-I-T-T-O-L-D. That is usually a husband who is aware and tolerates his wife’s infidelity.
So a cuckold is a man whose wife is fucking around on him. A whithold is a man whose wife is fucking around on him and he likes it. He’s into it.
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So a whithold or a whithold. Sometimes those words are applied to cuckqueens as well. And so we can assume that a whithold cuckween, see, that’s why I spelled it.
This is like a whittle. Whithold. Or whithold.
Whithold. Ooh, the chat room is fucking up tonight. Decided to do that twice.
Good job. Patty says I blame the English language for all the weird spelling. Uh, it’s the tendency of people who speak English to hear words in other languages and go, yeah, that sounds cool.
And just goink and just pick it up and run with it. Like I’m going to take it. Sold.
So the English use of the word cuckold is old. It is an old, old word. It comes from about 1250 is where it, that’s when it was written down.
So it’s probably older. There’s a medieval debate poem, the owl and the nightingale. And yeah, they’re talking about exactly what you think they were talking about.
It’s the cuckold. Um, it was considered coarse language to call somebody that. Um, because of course it was the English have to be snobby about shit.
Um, William Shakespeare often referred to cuckolds. The word implies deception, right? Because if we have a whittle, which is a man who is aware and tolerates, then a cuckold is not aware and would not tolerate. Whittle is a more recent word than cuckold.
Um, it appears around 1520. Queen first appeared around 1562. They’re often called, um, that a cuckold is wearing horns or that, that, uh, he’s has horns in some way.
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The horns of a cuckold, but cuckolds have, have horns. Patty says, I’m sorry, medieval debate poem. Thank you.
Terry says like a rap battle with ruffle callers. I don’t know if they had the ruffle callers back in 1250. Um, a debate poem was a literary device that they would use in medieval times.
So it was written in competing stanzas. And oftentimes it was a debate between a person and the devil was the most common way that they would phrase it. And so it was some, or, um, sometimes it would be a debate or a conversation between, uh, a man and a woman, like a guy going, Hey, I’d really like to marry you and have lots and lots of sex.
And the woman going, Oh, I don’t know. I’m trying to hold out for a better offer, but I’m really great. And you should come with me.
Okay. There’s a very famous debate poem that’s between, um, a woman and death. Addie said in Portuguese, we also use the horns, but our term for cuckold is literally horned.
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Yes. And it’s because, uh, okay. They think it’s a reference to the mating habit of stags deer, like deer, like, you know, giant hooved ungulates deer and stags, the stags fight over the females.
When one stag is defeated by another, he goes, darn it, shoot and leaves and forfeits getting to have sex with all the female deer. And so the winning stag gets to have all of the sex. And so apparently, if you are wearing the horns of a stag, you’re being cucked.
Like you, it’s complex. Okay. There’s metaphor.
It’s a metaphor. You would think if they didn’t have horns that they would have been not anyways, to wear the horns of a cuckold is to say that, well, you went up against a dude and you, you got, you got defeated and he says, but the winning stag also has horns though. I know you can’t, this is another one of those things where you cannot be too literal with it because it’s a fucking metaphor.
It’s a metaphor and it’s from 800 years ago. So who the fuck knows what’s going on? Terry said smaller limper horns. Yeah.
So here’s another fun fact. The supposedly far more dominant male who has won, pardon me, the more dominant male who seems to have won the battle over who gets to have sex with the woman is often referred to as a bull because we don’t have enough livestock references apparently. So I’m sure you can tell that some of these terms are just funny and some of them are very metaphoric.
And then there’s some of them that I just want to, I want to scrape off these words, right. And just get rid of them because calling it the, Oh, that’s, that’s the bull. Dude, can we not, can we not refer to a person with the same terminology we used to refer to like livestock? Yes.
Meshelle says I’ve always been so fascinated and simultaneously mystified by cuckolding and the terms definitely don’t help. Exactly. A lot of these terms are, Oh, Oh, that’s odd.
But it does make sense because we’re talking about something that’s been going on basically, um, since jump. If the first time it was written down is in a freaking poem from 1250, 1250. Yeah.
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Fidelity does not seem to be a thing that our species is super high on. We don’t do that. This sounds like some bafflement shit.
Uh, no. So, okay. That’s some of the, um, some of the fun terminology, another really common version or word associated with cuckolding that you will definitely run across hot wife.
Yeah. So the hot wife fetish, there’s an article in men’s health that is very interesting and runs significantly counter to what I have observed people who participate in the hot wife fetish, um, as, as what it’s all about. Oh, so this men’s health article says that the differences between being a cuckold or hot wifing, cuckolding versus hot wifing is the role of the observing partner.
And that in a hot wife scenario, and he’s like men’s health talks about kinks. Yep. They sure do.
A lot of men are very into the idea of cuckold being cuckolded. And I’m going to tell you why. So, um, the men’s health article says that hot wifing, the partner may or may not watch the wife have sex with other lovers.
This article says that, um, the hot wife fetish is more of with compersion. Oh, excuse me. I tried not to sneeze on the microphone.
I may not have turned my head enough. I apologize. So the hot wife fetish is more about compersion, driving pleasure from a partner’s pleasure, subverting social norms around monogamy and intimacy and also power.
Now this part I do agree with. The hot wife fetish involves usually a committed couple, male and female, and the male gives permission or encourages the wife strongly to have sex with other men. So it’s not that she is cuckolding him.
He is encouraging her to cuck. Hey, Miss Krista has joined us in here tonight. Ooh, the cuckold fetish brings out all of the peoples.
Look at that. So hot wifing the man in the relationship is the driving force behind it. He wants the woman to fuck other people.
The Men’s Health article is framing it as this is an opportunity for her to become more empowered. The way that I have more often seen it practiced, especially in the swingers groups, is that men who are interested in hot wifing enjoy knowing that their wife or partner is sexually desired by other men, but she always comes back to him. She comes back to her primary partner.
So she might go and have sex with other men, but she has the romantic intimacy with the husband. And she always comes back to him. And in many ways, this reaffirms to the man that he is more of a man than the other people.
That his wife can fuck other people. They find his wife attractive. They want her.
But then she ultimately winds up rejecting the other men to return to her husband. So that’s one layer on there. And he says, complexity and depth.
There’s a lot going on with the cuckold stuff. Terry says, I hate power dynamics. They’re always in there, though.
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Patty said, can’t we all just remove the power dynamic for a hot minute, just like in general? That might make it easier to talk about. No, the power dynamic is intrinsic to what’s going on. And the power dynamic is what makes the difference between hot wife cuckolding and just fucking around.
Right? It would make it a little bit easier to talk about. Because the power dynamics, the thing that motivates, drives, and pushes forward, the whole scenario. Without the power dynamic, it’s just sex.
They’re just fucking. The power dynamic is built into patriarchal assumptions about relationships, about marriage, about who’s cheating, whether or not they have permission to cheat, who’s encouraging whom to do what with whom. There’s a lot going on in there.
And all of that, all of that power dynamic is the stuff that people are getting off on. It’s not necessarily they don’t get off on the sex. They’re getting off on the complex mixture of the power dynamic, subverting, yes, social roles, what’s expected in a relationship, the taboo nature of whatever it is that they’re doing.
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Wives aren’t supposed to fuck other people. Like, ooh, that’s naughty. Right? That’s terrible.
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That’s bad. Oh, no. But that’s a big driver of what makes this hot.
For some people, it’s being watched, knowing that your partner knows exactly what you’re doing, that your partner is enjoying what you’re doing with somebody else. Like, that can also be a monster driver of what’s happening in a cuckold scenario. Yeah.
Krista says, taking power as a woman, you have to have the power dynamic. There’s always a power dynamic. It is built into our society.
Unfortunately. Yeah. Patty says, I understand my personal reasons for this not really being appealing, specifically for me.
Uh-huh. Meshelle says, I’m a huge fan of gap mo. So I thought I totally get cuckolding.
But when you introduce all the patriarchal madness, I get so lost. And Krista said it was fun for the woman when the guy is being cucked as a punishment for being such a selfish pig. Yes.
So gap mo is a Japanese term for affection. It’s like cognitive dissonance, the gap between expectation and reality. There he said, let me just sit in the corner and throw me a bone every now and then.
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See, because that’s also an aspect of the cuckolding. As with most things sexual, we can always add more humiliation. Erotic humiliation can be an enormous driver of what you’re doing.
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The fact that this is embarrassing, or that it it’s pushing all of your little, oh, I’m so dirty and naughty buttons. Right? Erotic humiliation is always can be added to any situation. So the men’s health article that I was referencing, and don’t worry, I’ll put a link into the Whore School Discord too, was talking about, so the hot wife, the husband wants it and is encouraging it and wants his wife to go out and fuck other men.
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And oftentimes, from what I have observed, it’s a reaffirmation of his masculinity when she comes back to him after she’s had her fun. Cuckolding is more, according to the men’s health article, more humiliating for the man. Because the reason why the woman is fucking another man is not because she’s like, you know what, I want to do this because I want to feel powerful and I want to feel sexy and I know that my husband really wants me to and therefore I’m going to do this in order to make my husband happy.
The driver for more traditional cuckolding, and I hope you can hear the quotes, is the humiliation of the husband. That I’m going to go fuck this other guy because you can’t. You can’t satisfy me, therefore I’m going to go get what I need somewhere else.
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See, it’s the very thin shading there. Who has the power at the outset of the scenario? In the hot wife fetish, the husband has the power and he gives permission to the wife to have sex with someone else and then she comes back to him bringing back the power to say, yes, okay, I’m back with you. You’re the real man.
You liked it too, didn’t you? Right? In cuckolding, it often doesn’t matter whether the husband’s into it or not. The wife or girlfriend is going to fuck somebody else and often has that overt air of erotic humiliation. Miss Krista and Miss Y’all are in the community kink.com chat room talking about tying their cuck to the chair, making him bring his own chair and tying him to it in order to humiliate him.
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Patty says that she’ll be honest. The traditional version of cuckolding is all I can see cuckolding as and no matter how much I’ve tried, I can’t see it as anything else. I first came across cuckolding through hot wife, which is a subset of swinging.
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And I hope you can hear just slightest hint of derision in my tone because I came across swinging because I got involved with polyamory. People who are involved in polyamory, poly means many, amory means love. So people who are polyamorous are in multiple consensual, informed relationships.
It’s the opposite of monogamy, right? So if monogamy is I have one boyfriend or one husband and that’s it, polyamory says, you know what, screw that. I’m going to have as many men and women and non-binary persons in my life as I can handle. YOLO.
Right? Krista says poly life is the only way to go. And Meshelle says, yeah, I practice relationship anarchy because I just can’t with cis hetero nonsense. Yeah.
Relationship anarchy is a term from polyamory, by the way, that in polyamory, it’s the further back in time you go with polyamory, you wind up with a bunch of people who were very hierarchical. So there’s hierarchical polyamory in which oftentimes it’s a man and a woman who probably are legally married. And then they have various secondary and tertiary partners.
And notice those terms, secondary and tertiary, because they rank them by degree of commitment, which is a choice that some people have made for their personal relationships. Meshelle says, utter bullshit. I’m trying to be nice over here.
I’m trying to be nice to these fuckers. But yeah, it’s utter bullshit. Absolutely.
I’m sorry. It’s crap. It’s like, we’re, we’re just gonna rank my lovers by who’s more important.
Ew. Those are people. It’s not pie.
It’s not a pie. The amount of affection that I have is not pie. I cannot cut it into slices and say, well, you get half of a pie, and then you only get an eighth of a pie.
This person over here, right now they get a quarter of a pie. But you know what? I might give them more pie. Like what? Because it also implies that you could get deranked, which is, anyway.
Yeah. Krista says she ranks them by orgasms. Valid.
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Patty said, I’m very confused at this point. Frankly, too afraid to ask which parts are the actual okay ones. And Terry points out that jealousy ruins things.
Yes. Jealousy fucks things up. And honestly, nothing breeds more jealousy than trying to rank your sexual partners by who’s more important.
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They’re, they’re, they’re all important. Relationship anarchy for the win. But you can also see where that messes with the hot wife fetish.
Right? Because there is no one single partner that’s going to give me fucking permission to go out with one of my other lovers. They’re like, no, nobody’s wearing the stag horns. None of you are in charge.
There’s none of that bullshit. Uh-uh. I’m going to fuck who I want to fuck because it’s my fucking body and I get to pick.
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And if you got a problem with that, you don’t have to be dating me. Right? So, um, you can see the fact that I learned about cuckolding first through swingers and through the hot wife fetish because I was involved in polyamory. Some attitudes linger a little bit.
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People who are first polyamorous and then find out about swinging often look at swingers and go, what the fuck is wrong with you? Because they have separated out sex and romance in ways that are weird. Because in the swinging community, you can fuck somebody, but you’re not supposed to catch feelings for them. It’s just physical.
There’s no emotional intimacy. It’s just fucking. Which on the one hand, tons of fun.
Like, yes, absolutely. Tons of fun. And on the other hand, catching feelings is kind of human nature.
Like that’s how we are. That’s, it’s really counterintuitive to try to tell a bunch of human beings that, okay, you can do this deeply intimate activity with people. Just don’t like them on a personal level.
And I’m saying this as an aromantic person. I don’t really do romance. But I do queer platonic relationships.
Like I do a lot of those. Like absolutely. QPR, bitches.
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I also, I don’t do jealousy, because I’m very aromantic. Why would I be jealous of you? Any of you having a close intimate relationship with somebody else? That’s a good thing for you. So go forth and do what you do.
Yes. Meshelle says, sex in and of itself is a great way to deepen bonding. So it’s odd that some people get so thrown when they have feelings afterwards.
Right. Patty says that she’s jealous of my inability to process jealousy. And then it’s more of an irrational response.
Jealousy is oftentimes, especially jealousy arising from within a relationship, is a sign that you have a need that’s not being met. That’s all jealousy is. Jealousy is just a sign that you have something that you’re not getting.
Yeah, Meshelle says, I’d argue that jealousy isn’t irrational. It’s not irrational. It’s, it’s your, it’s another way for your emotions to manifest in an attempt to get your attention.
It’s telling you where you have a need that has not yet been met. So if you look at they’re drinking water and you’re like, man, I wish I had some water. Yeah, you’re thirsty, dumbass.
Go drink some water. So if you look at people in relationships around you and you go, man, I wish I could cuddle and watch Netflix and chill. You, you need to cuddle and watch Netflix and chill.
You have a need that’s not being met. Speak your words to your trusted people and ask them to help you meet your need. You just have to communicate with people and tell them, I would love to cuddle tonight.
Do you have time in your schedule? And if they don’t, darn, hey, that’s where polyamory is great because you can go to the next person and say, will you cuddle me? What says who wants to cuddle and watch Netflix, right? Let’s just all make a big cuddle puddle. We’ll all curl up and we’ll watch something stupid on TV for a while and it’ll be great. Feel free to nap.
Ooh, Miss Meshelle is in. Cuddle puddle, cuddle puddle. Fuck yes.
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So that, that, that’s where some of my, um, knee jerk rejection of the hot wife fetish comes from. It’s not you. It’s me.
I came across these terms at a formative age and discovered that I have a problem with authority. I don’t want anybody to have the power or ability to give me permission to do anything. I don’t need permission for nothing.
I reject that entirely. The whole edifice. I am way more comfortable with cuckolding as female empowerment.
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I’m going to go fuck who I want to fuck because I want to fuck them. And if you want to watch and get off on it, great. Cause I’m an exhibitionist.
I like being watched. This is a win-win. Oh, you don’t want to watch? You want to sit in the hallway and cry because you could never do what my lover is doing? Whatever blows your skirt up, dude.
Sure. Oh, you want me to humiliate you? About this while I’m doing it? Sure. I can do that too.
Cause I get off on that too. Yes. I am perfectly happy to laugh at you and mock you and tell you all the ways in which your dick’s too small and you can’t last.
And that’s why I had to outsource and bring in someone else to do what you are incapable of doing. La, la, la, la, la. I’m going to fuck whoever the fuck I want to fuck.
And if that gets you off too, good. Great. The more the merrier.
Terry says, Ms. Harper, stop reading my wish book. So yeah, the hot wife fetish is a little bit, uh, not as heavy on the female empowerment as I want it to be. I want it to be full female empowerment.
It’s I have to have somebody else’s permission to do this. That makes me go. Nah.
Way back in college, before, before anything, before I went to that very first BDSM party, before anything else, I was poly because I was like, you know what? I don’t want the responsibility of being everything to somebody else. I was like, I, yikes, that’s too much. That’s too much stress for me.
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And so I would tell people that I was dating, hey, if you want to have sex with somebody else, or you want to date somebody else, just tell me, because I don’t want to be blindsided by it. I, I want to know. And also it’s, you know, a safety issue because I want to know, are like, are you bringing something home? Did you fuck somebody and get an STD? Like what’s going on there? I just want to know.
And yet even with that, even with openly blatantly explaining to somebody that, hey, I’m poly. I don’t care if you fuck somebody else. I just want to know about it for my own safety, for my own health.
Can you believe I still got cheated on? Yep. Men are dumb. I know not all men, but that one was, can you just picture for a moment the perfect fucking setup? Because all I wanted to know was who, who are you fucking? And this dumb son of a bitch Terry says, I would have thought it was a trap.
See, I don’t pull that shit though. I guess that’s just proof that, yeah, we’re, we were not compatible, which was a shame because if ever there was somebody who was just begging to be pegged, it was him. Oh, he wanted it hard.
God. And I was willing, I was willing to do it. I was like, yeah, I’ve never done this before in my whole entire life, but you know what? You can, I’ll, I’ll pop your fucking ass, Terry.
Sure. Let’s do this. Like, it’s like, we need some lube.
We need some gloves. I got to find a dildo. I need a strap on.
I need a harness. Where do I get a harness? Shit. And then he cheated on me because he’s a dumb ass jerk.
So he did not get fucked in the ass by me. I would have been good at it because I am good at it. Meshelle says, some people just really get off on cheating.
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They think it’s not abuse, but it totally is. Yeah, it’s bullshit. You’re more likely to get what you want out of a relationship if you can use your words and say it out loud to the people you would like to have things, do things to you or with you.
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And honestly, communication isn’t as scary as it seems. Just remember when that little anxiety thing’s going off in your head, that your brain, your literal wet tapioca inside your skull can’t tell the difference between something that’s genuinely scary, you know, a tiger coming to eat you versus something that’s just socially scary, possibly being embarrassed when you ask your partner to fuck you in the ass and she goes, ew. Like your brain, your anxiety brain thinks both of those things are equally bad.
One of those is way worse than the other. Having somebody go, oh God, what? You want me to do what? I’ve never done that before. Are you sure? Is that what? I’m a virgin.
I have no idea what we’re talking about. I’ve never been on the internet. I’ve definitely never looked at that kind of porn.
What? All of that was false at the time, by the way, versus a lion’s going to eat you. You gotta communicate. Just remember that the elements of good consent, it must be freely given.
It must be reversible. It must be informed, which means you had to say it out loud. You had to, you had to open your mouth and the words came out.
I would like to do this. And your partner said, yes, that sounds great. Thumbs up.
Come on, y’all. If you don’t got consent, it’s not cuckolding. You’re cheating.
Okay. Oh, and all the guys, oh God. So there was the case in France.
It was really big. There’s another case that’s in the UK of men rendering their wives insensate and then having other men come in to fuck said wives through the use of narcotics often. It’s super illegal, extremely illegal, immoral, unethical, gross.
That’s not cuckolding. That’s not cuckolding. That’s a much, that’s a crime on multiple levels.
There’s several crimes that are happening for the people who did that and participated in that. And they’re all going to jail. They’re going to jail for a very long time.
So do not do that. It did not involve at any point ever opening their mouth and communicating with their partner about, Hey, this is a thing I’m into. What about you? So don’t do that.
Nope. Those are crimes. You deserve to be under the jail.
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That’s no gross. So cuckolding, potlifing, both are consensual. If they’re not consensual, that’s gross.
And we’re not going to do that. So as a professional phone sex femdom sub homies, when you call me up for a session, anything that we’re doing by its very nature is consensual because I can hang up on you. You just be like, we’re done.
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And I’m not going to role play things that are actually crimes with you. That’s, I know, I like looking at myself in the mirror in the morning when I’m brushing my teeth. Like I want to be able to look at myself and not be like, who the fuck are you? And what have you done? You know? So Mott says, move on.
So cuckolding? Yes. Hot wifing? It’s going to rapidly become just cuckolding. I’m sorry.
Hopefully you’ll be okay with a role play in which the woman is like, bitch, I don’t need your permission. Just goes out and fucks anybody she feels like for multiple reasons. Not just that, you know, because it’s a female empowerment thing, but also because, uh, I like it better.
I like that a whole lot better. So cuckolding, what’s up with that? Some people are weird. Ms. Meshelle says, is there a difference between hot wives and vixens? We all, yeah.
So the vixen in a sexual relationship, I’m not going to call her a slut. It’s the femme fatale. It is a seductress.
The hot wife sometimes can be a vixen. Patty says, we can’t just be introduced new terms this late in the morning. You will always learn things.
Sometimes the hot wife or the cuckold, cuckoldress, is a vixen. She is strong. She’s powerful.
She’s smart. She is sexually liberated. She knows what she wants.
She goes and gets it. Oftentimes I think of it as in a hot wife scenario, the woman is a vixen, but she has been restraining herself this whole time out of her, sorry, hang on, respect for her man, respect for her man’s authority and masculine power. I can say that without laughing.
See, I just did. So she’s been restraining herself out of respect for her man. And finally he gives her permission to go forth and fuck whomever she wants to.
Or in cuckolding, the woman is a vixen. She just cuckolds. She turns the man into a cuck.
She fucks whoever she wants. If he’s down with it, he’s a wittle. If he is not done with it, then he’s just sad.
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Meshelle says, ooh, so the vixen is the insatiable hot wife unshamed. Probably, yeah. Yeah.
Krista said a vixen is a sexually aggressive woman. Addie said, what’s the difference between a vixen and a femme fatale then? Not very much. They’re basically the same thing.
I always forget to check the chat room that’s attached to Podbean. Chris asked, may I ask a question? What is my take on Scream 7? Haven’t seen it. And then Frankie D said, titties.
This is an adult, not safe for work podcast. All people listening and interacting with the podcast must be over the age of 18 or I will cry. I’m just going to assume you’re 18 or older.
So Whore School is adult sex education. I have a blog for Whore School. It’s Whoreschool.net. Go check it out.
I’ve been working hard on it. It’s got some good stuff on there. Show transcripts are available for the past 20 shows that are on there.
This was episode number 484, 485. Dang it. I was off.
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I am Harper. I am a pro. You can call and talk to me and I promise I’m nice.
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Mostly nice. Sometimes I’m nice. I can be nice.
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Whore School is adult sex education. It airs every single Sunday from 11 to midnight on the East Coast. That’s eight to nine on the West Coast.
If you are in a different time zone, uh, good fucking luck. I’m, I’m not messing with that. That is up to you.
You can figure that shit out. Krista says the only thing stopping you from a Krista-gasm is you. I hope that you guys learned something about cuckolds, hotwives, witholds, uh, and medieval debate poetry.
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Thank you all for listening. Please remember it’s not too late to start wearing a mask in public again. I’m just saying.
Wash your ass, be kind to strangers, and, uh, I’ll see you all again next week. Good night.
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