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WS 466 How To Find A Feminization Mistress
From September 29, 2025, your adult sex education podcast went full sissy! Well, not full sissy, but pretty close; when you want to explore a little gender expression and play with your presentation, it can be helpful to enlist the assistance of a woman. A Mistress can guide your exploration and give you tips, hints, and help you set expectation. But, how do you FIND one?!!! I have tips for that, too.
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When you hear the chime, that’s when you know the show is on. And that was the chime. Whore School is a live adult sex education aimed at creating better adult human beings in the world.
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On account of y’all, oh, there’s some ignorance in the world, and I have made it my life’s goal to combat that, you know, for reasons. So Whore School is adult sex education aimed at grown folks who would like to become better educated about the world and stuff that’s going on in it. If you are listening to the live show, please head to communitykink.com. That’s the chat room.
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It’s open. Right as I pressed start on the show, I dropped something on the floor, too, so that’s the sound of me doing an awkward reach down to pick up something that I dropped on the floor. Oh, goodness.
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Kylie says, having trouble with the podcast. I’m not having trouble with the podcast. I hope you can hear me.
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Please don’t make me have to put on sound monitoring. I hate having to do that. There’s a slight delay, and it drives me crazy.
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I don’t have trouble. You can always tell when I’m typing. One, you can hear it, and two, I stop talking.
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I can’t type and talk at the same time. I know. Terrible.
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Right? Ugh. It’s the worst. At least that’s how you know that when you call and talk to me, I’m definitely not doing two sessions at the same time.
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One by voice and one by text, because I can’t fucking do that. The number of times I’ve been trying to type something while saying something else out loud, and I just wind up typing a transcript of whatever it is that I’m saying. My life is fun.
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If you are listening to the live show, head to communitykink.com. The chat room is open. I’ve been joined tonight by Ms. Kylie Gable and Patti, who I notice is no longer Patti the sissy. I see how it is.
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That’s fine. That’s fine. We are going to talk about a sissification and feminization topic tonight.
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What are we discussing? Ooh, I’m so glad you asked. How to find a feminization mistress. Oh yeah.
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I recently wrote, and as in recently, I wrote it yesterday and it was published today, a new blog post for the Sissyville blog. One word, Sissyville, S-I-S-S-Y-V-I-L-L-E, Sissyville. Go to Sissyville.
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There’s tons of stuff on there. So I’ve already written about how to find a feminization mistress. You’re welcome.
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If you read that faster than I can talk, then you’ll know what I’m going to tell you. Ms. Addie has joined us in the chat room and Patti says that she is maybe trying to distance from that label a little bit to not box herself into a corner. That’s fair.
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It’s your name. Call yourself what you want to. You don’t have to apply a label.
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And yeah, it can feel a little bit limiting sometimes, can’t it, to put a label onto yourself and then everybody thinks, well, that’s just what you are. We’re way more dimensional than that. Okay.
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So for people in this world who have just decided that, hey, maybe I would like to explore my gender presentation a little bit, and they’re wondering how in the heck-a-dee-poop-a-dee-doo do I find someone to help me do that? Womp womp. It’s real fucking difficult. Last week’s show was about basically how to behave manners when you’re in the kinky community, when you’re out in the world.
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And basically, you know, don’t be too much of a spaz. It’s applicable for people who decide that they want to find a feminization mistress. When you go to a BDSM or kink event, not everyone who’s there is there to be an NPC in your sexual fantasy.
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They are human beings with their own needs, wants, and desires, and they may or may not be open to helping you get your needs met. So be nice. Be nice to people.
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Those are human beings. I know, everybody’s social skills are a little bit atrophied nowadays, but, you know, stretch. So my first bit of advice for you are interested in finding someone to play with, to explore your desires.
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Fabulous. What are your desires? Like, you should ask yourself that. What do you really want? What do you want? What do you need? What are you here for? Like, what? What do you want? The more specific you can be when you answer that question, the better off you will be in the long run.
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Non-specific answers, it’s really hard to find a specific person when you can’t tell me what you’re looking for. You need to be able, ideally, to boil down what you’re looking for into, like, an elevator pitch. Three to five simple statements about what you want.
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Get it? Clear. Get clear with yourself first, and then work on the verbiage to be able to communicate to somebody else. What do you fucking want? An awful lot of people in the kink community, and trust me, I’ve been in the kink community for a while now, when you go to a party, as a femdom, if there’s a male submissive who’s never done this shit before, I guarantee, we can clock you, we know that you’re there because you’re staring at us.
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Like, we can tell. And the sheer volume of times I’ve had somebody who stares, eventually manages to work up the nerve to come over and ask if I might be interested in playing with them. Very sweet.
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Very good. Okay, sure. Yes.
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What are you looking for? And then they go, uh, because they can’t answer that question. What do you want? Is it choice paralysis that causes them to go blue screen of death? Or is it that they just, they want everything. They want all of the things.
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I want this, this, this, and this. I want all of it. Yes.
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All at once. Patty said, I’ve, I’ve never even been to a party and somehow feel called out. It’s like looking, looking into your potential future.
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Well now you know, I’m going to tell you how to, how to avoid this. So step number one, do not tell a femdom or a mistress that you are into, and I quote anything because you are not, you’re not into any, anything. You’re not that open, especially if you’ve never done this before.
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You’re, you’re not ready for exactly how far down I can take you. You’re not ready for anything. You have some very specific fantasies and fetish checkpoints that you expect to hit.
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Anything? No, no, you’re not into anything. And if you are, you’ve probably been involved in the community for a while and can start listing off all of the things that you’re into, which is the opposite of the problem. You want too much.
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So don’t, don’t just say, well, I just, I just want to serve. A submissive who tells a femdom that the only thing they’re interested in is just, I just really want to serve. I just want to serve you, mistress.
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I just wanted, I just want to be yours. I just want to, I just want to serve. That’s right up there with the guy who tells his wife that, well, you know, I’ll do anything.
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You just got to give me a list, like in regards to chores around the house. You just, you just have to tell me what to do and I’ll do it. That’s, that’s not helpful.
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You have outsourced the mental load for your sexual fantasy onto somebody else. How fucking lazy are you? That you can’t come up with three things that you’re into and would like to experience. Instead, it’s, I just want to serve anything, mistress.
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Uh huh. Great. So I have to think it up.
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I have to think up your sexual fantasy for you too. I have to think it up and then I have to deliver it. And then if it doesn’t meet your desires, you’re just going to, what, cry about it? But somehow blame me for it? You ffff.
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Anyway. And he said, technically the answer is that, is that I am indeed pretty lazy. It’s very self-aware.
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I just like to call it out. Because as a professional, I run into that quite a bit. I just want to serve is, um, make a list of chores for me to do.
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You live here. Make your own fucking list. It’s your sexual fantasy.
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Come on. Fucking communicate. Jesus fucking Christ.
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It’s not difficult. Like seriously, three to five things at most, like more than five is a little bit excessive, but at least like two, come on, like a concept of something you would like to experience. Whatever it is, like some random thought that makes you go, Ooh, horny, like that, that’s what you have to be able to communicate.
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So if as a sissy, interested in exploring whatever the fuck being a sissy means to you, if you’re into, uh, you want somebody to tell you what to wear to feminize you and to, um, tell you to go suck a dick. That’s three things. Okay.
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So dressed, feminized, cock sucking. Great. Great.
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I can build an amazing fantasy around those three concepts. Absolutely. Absolutely.
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Yes. Let’s go. I can work with that.
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If you have something even more specific in mind or something that you need or want out of your experience, fucking speak up, dude. So if what you really want is a specific type of panties, mention them, say them, say that. Full coverage, high leg, pink lace panties.
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Oh, okay. Great. Plenty of detail.
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Love that. Love that, darling. Yes.
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Like if that is the specific thing that you need in your fantasy, you have to be able to say it out loud to another living human being. Otherwise you will not get the specific thing. You cannot expect anybody, whether this is in face to face interactions or over the internet or phone, nobody else.
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We’re not mind readers. Like, we’re good. I can make a very reasonable guess about what kinds of scenarios you might like.
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You tell me cock sucking and feminization and I’m immediately like, oh, yeah, somebody’s going to use your pigtails like handlebars. Like, you know, I can come to some reasonable conclusions about how what the general shape of this fantasy is going to be. But if you have something extremely specific in mind, you gotta say it.
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You have to say it out loud. See? And then here’s Patty in the chat says being able to say what I’m looking for is a recent skill I’m developing. And the next step is being able to say it to another person in real life.
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Yeah, that’s the tricky bit. Because it is embarrassing. It’s so super embarrassing.
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Which is why. Okay. So knowing first.
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Knowing. Just for yourself. An awareness in and of yourself of what you want.
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That’s step number one. Step number two is communicating that. So you’ve done some introspection.
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You have looked at your masturbatory fantasies. You’ve looked at your porn history. And you’ve gone, ah, there’s some themes in here.
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Apparently this is what works for me. And you’ve distilled that down to roughly three things. Three major motifs in your masturbatory fantasies that you.
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It always works. It’s a tried and true. You always go back to those.
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Those three things. And it always works for you. So great.
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You know your things. When you reach out to somebody. To ask them.
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To pretty, pretty please. Help you out. With whatever it is that your scenario may happen to be.
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Do not. Open. With the triple X rated extreme.
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Descriptions. Don’t. Don’t open with that.
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Do not walk up to a woman at a kink event. And tell her. Hi, I would love to have you strip me naked.
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Grease me up. With mineral oil. Dress me like.
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A sissy Lolita. And then bend me over. And fuck me with a giant strap on.
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To make my asshole gape. And call me a pussy bitch. While you spank me.
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Don’t open with that. Don’t start. With the triple X. Don’t.
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Like. Dear God. At least say hello first.
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And he said. But if it’s coconut oil instead of mineral oil. That’s an okay opener, right? Yeah, that’s what makes it acceptable.
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Less likely to stain. It’s still going to stay though. Girl.
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You want to start. With a kind of a PG-13. Testing.
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So if you. If you really, really, really want to email me. With your extremely explicit fantasy.
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You can. I wish you wouldn’t. I wish that you would treat me like I’m a person first.
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And a sex vending machine later. Like. At least.
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Open with. Hi. I found you.
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On wherever. I listened to horse school. I found your blog.
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I saw that post on Sissyville. And thought, hey, I should reach out. I’m interested in exploring.
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And this is where you insert. Your three things. I’m interested in exploring.
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Cock sucking. I’m interested in exploring. Cross dressing.
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And feminization. Would you be interested in doing this with me? And then I will respond back with. Yes, absolutely.
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That sounds wonderful. I’m so glad you found me. It’s always fun to meet a fan.
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Can you tell me more about whatever your fantasy is? Because now I’m interested. That’s your cue. That’s your cue.
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To tell me. The triple X extreme. Details of your fantasy.
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Especially if those details are important. Don’t. Don’t open.
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With that. Unless it really, really, really. Really is a deal breaker.
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And then just be fucking succinct. And I’ll tell you why. I want you to be succinct.
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Kylie said. I just found out. I need to find my own panties.
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Because the ones she picked wouldn’t work for me. This is too much pressure. It is.
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It’s too much pressure to have to locate your own underwear. It’s terrible. That’s so mean.
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Awful. So. Okay.
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So why should you be succinct? Before. Whoever it is. So you walk up to somebody at a party.
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Right. Do not open. With your entire masturbatory fantasy.
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Don’t start with that. Start short. And it’s because.
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And it’s the same thing. If you email one of the mistresses. You email me with the entire.
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Scenario. Like that. That’s your cold open.
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Is the triple X. And you just went for it. I’m going to assume. You were jerking off when you wrote that.
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And if you walk up to me at a party. And immediately open with. Here’s my entire fantasy.
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Oh. Yeah. You’re getting off on it.
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Like the act of exposing yourself like this. And straight up saying. That is part of what is turning you on.
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And I have not yet. Consented to being part. Of your masturbatory fantasy.
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It’s icky. And this is coming from me. A professional.
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I’m used to people. Making me part of. Their masturbatory fantasies.
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I get paid for that. Now. Doing that.
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Without paying me. And without making sure. Ahead of time.
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That that’s okay. How horny are you? Like damn. But when you go to like.
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A party or an event. Even if it’s aimed at. Whatever it is that your fantasy is.
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If you go to a cross dressing event. And there’s a bunch of women there. Who are like yes I love to put men into.
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Panties because I think it’s hot. And it’s a lot of fun. Even then.
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Until you have established. Some sort. Of a relationship with those women.
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You cannot. Just automatically assume. That they’re an NPC there to fulfill.
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Whatever your fucking sexual desires are. You have to talk to people. First.
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Before. You dive. Directly into.
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Whatever your fantasy. May happen to be. You gotta talk to people dude.
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Honest women are not scary. We’re relatively easy to speak with. Most of the time.
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Penny says I’m in too joking. Of a mood tonight. Nah we like jokes.
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Have you met me? I laugh all the fucking time. Jokes are good. Okay.
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So. Know what you want. And use your fucking common sense.
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When interacting. With. Adult.
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Human women. That you would like. To convince.
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To play along with you. In your fantasies. So what kinds of things.
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Can you get. From. A feminization mistress.
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Sky’s the limit bud. Whatever it is. That just crossed your mind.
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That you were like ooh I’d like. Whatever that was. Yeah you can find somebody who’s into that.
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Don’t make the mistake of thinking. That just because a person happens. To be a woman.
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That we’re not also. Fucking kinky perverts. We’re.
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Women are not. That different from men. Men get horny.
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Hey so do women. Men have elaborate sexual fantasies. So do women.
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There’s nothing about your sexual fantasy. That is good. It’s like.
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Completely off the table. Okay. I can think of a few things that are completely off the table.
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But we don’t talk about those things. So. We’re just talking about some feminization.
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And cissification over here. It might. And he said did you say to assume women are.
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Or aren’t kinky perverts. I mean you could pretty well assume that. All human beings.
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Definitely are. Kinky perverts. Like the vast majority of human beings.
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Are pretty. Horny on main. Sometimes.
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We run into this. Men who are. Into feminization.
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Make the mistake of assuming. That all the women around them. Would not be into that.
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When the reality is. A fair chunk of women. Would actually be into that.
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Would enjoy helping you. With your feminization. But you’ll never know.
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Because they don’t ask. Yeah. And he said.
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That would mean a lot of people are quite frustrated. Repressing their kinkiness. Uh huh.
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Yeah. She said. Huh.
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I wonder why society is like that. Do not. Do not get me off.
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On that topic again. Because I will. Oh.
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That’s like catnip in front of a cat. I’m like. Puritans.
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It’s puritans. It’s fucking puritans again. Oh good.
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Patty said. I don’t walk around thinking about every person I see. Like I wonder if they would like the sexual thing I’m into.
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Most people don’t. Most of the time. The vast majority of people around you.
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I hope that you’re not thinking. About me in a sexual way. Kylie said.
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You know who makes a lot of sense to me lately? John Calvin. Boo. Fuck John Calvin.
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Asshole. Patty said. I literally just said.
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I don’t. I know. Most people don’t.
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Most people do not think about other people sexually. Kylie said. He’s the one with the imaginary tiger right? It’s Calvin and Hobbes.
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The tiger. God I love the fact that it’s. Yeah.
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Anyways. I’m not going to discuss the philosophy of Calvin and Hobbes. The comic strip.
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Girl. That’s a good one. That’s a good distraction.
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I almost took it. I almost took the bait. But see like Patty.
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You don’t think about the sexual lives of most of the people around you. Good. But an awful lot of people make the mistake of.
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When they do think about. The sexual lives. Of especially the people that.
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Are in their life. Right. So men who think about.
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What their wife or. Girlfriend might be. Interested in sexually.
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They make the mistake of. Thinking that their wife. Their girlfriend.
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Would never be into. Whatever it is. That they’re into.
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Feminization cross-dressing. Cuckolding. And guided.
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Master like none of that they. Assume. That their wife or girlfriend must.
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Be completely vanilla. In every. Possible way.
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And or that their wife or. Girlfriend is. Submissive.
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Which is a mistake. That’s the mistake. Thinking like the automatic.
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Assumption that. My wife would never be interested. In making me wear her panties.
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She might be. Because it’s kind of fun. It’s fun to me.
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To like. Put on my panties. Because it’s neat.
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More women than you. Assume. For the vast majority.
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Of straight dudes out there. More women than you think. Are pretty okay with the idea.
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Of feminizing you. Even if it’s just. For a night or a weekend.
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Because it’s kind of fun. I can kind of see. Why it’s safer to assume.
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Your partner isn’t kinky. In a vacuum. Then there’s no chance.
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Of having someone leave you. For being gross. Or a pervert or a freak.
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And Addie said. In all fairness. I’ve seen some pretty.
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Judgmental and close minded. Comments from straight women. Sure it could be the whole.
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Repressed thing again. Oh it’s definitely the repressed thing. The kinds.
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Of erotica. That women consume. Is very different from the erotica.
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That men consume. Men are extremely visual. And this is of course.
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Like I’m painting with very very broad strokes. Like there’s always exceptions. The vast majority of men.
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Enjoy visual porn. So like mainstream porn. Mostly for dudes.
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Women do watch porn. Not as much. As most men do.
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And not in the same way. The kind of porn. That is made and marketed.
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Towards women and does well with women. Has more plot. To it.
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It has more. World building and relationship stuff. Going on in there.
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And honestly the vast majority of porn. That most women are consuming. Is written erotica.
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Keyboard smash said. Women view sex in the context of a relationship. I mean yeah.
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Like fucking a stranger. Is not. That super attractive.
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To the vast majority of people. Who have been socialized as women. They want to have some.
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Context for their relationship. So the idea of the plumber. Comes by and you’re like.
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I’ve got a pipe for you to clean. Like ew. Stranger sex.
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Most women would prefer more. Of a relationship. So instead of the plumber dropping by.
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It’s your. Old boyfriend from college. Happens to be in town.
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And so you know. Oh he finally told me how it’s pronounced. He says it’s seal day gas.
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Seal day gas. Oh I can see that. I was trying to pronounce.
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Every single part of that. Patty said I find myself watching less visual porn. Like I still do.
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But I really enjoy audio based videos. Still a video. Kylie says.
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I write in the one genre. That is almost exclusively men. And isn’t visual.
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Not a lot of women read it. But I found some really profound differences. In what women like in it.
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Yes. The differences are in. What people are looking for.
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Within it. So just. Audio storytelling.
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Patty said it’s a video. But it’s not a video being played. It’s just someone talking.
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It’s just an audio file. Hell yeah. That’s the kind of porn I make.
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Because first I write it. It’s written erotica. But it’s read aloud.
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So it’s like an audio book. Audio short story. So here.
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Your username is. The husband of. I’m not even going to try to say that.
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Because I bet I’m going to fuck it up. From Celtic folklore. Oh my goodness Patty.
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Kylie said. I used to always make my doms. Avenging some slight done by a guy.
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By feminizing them. And I learned that women prefer the dom to be a force of nature. And the guy just crossed her path.
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Makes sense. Because that way the woman has agency. Rather than just reacting to the guy.
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Yeah it depends on where. The center of the story is. If that makes sense.
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Patty said it’s not that weird is it? No it’s not weird at all. Like there’s. There.
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Whatever it is that turns you on. Dear listener. Who may or may not be also Patty.
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Whatever that is. Like obviously. You have found people.
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Who are producing that kind of porn. Or erotica. That suits your needs.
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And that’s kind of cool. Yeah. I like porn.
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Where the woman is. Um. Like erotica that features.
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Sometimes with a relationship. I don’t particularly. Personally enjoy.
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Ooh a strange person. And we’re gonna fuck now. I do like there to be some kind of.
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An existing relationship. Um. Um.
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Well. Stranger porn can be kind of fun. Hmm.
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Very off topic. Look what you did to me. We’re supposed to be talking about how to find.
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A feminization mistress. And not what kind of porn I like. Y’all.
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I took the bait. Y’all are. Y’all are naughty.
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Terrible. But yes. A woman with agency is way better.
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Like if. It’s gonna be a. Cuckold type story. I’ve read a lot.
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Of erotica. I’ve read a lot of porn. And you can always tell.
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What’s written by a person. Who has. Had sex.
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And what’s been written. By somebody who is clearly. Not.
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Had sex. I think you would like deeper.com. It’s high quality porn. I mean.
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Maybe. Graphic soap opera stuff. It depends.
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I’m. I’m. I have a wide range of stuff.
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That I’m interested in. But also. I don’t go back to stories.
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Unless they’re really fucking good. Because I’m picky as shit. So like.
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I’ll give anything at least. Two minutes worth of my attention. It’s cute.
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You think I know the names. Of various porn actors. Because I do not pay attention to that.
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Which is terrible. I know. Oh yeah.
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She was mainstream. Yeah I definitely don’t pay any attention to that. Like I. I don’t pay attention to the names of porn.
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Actors. Let me look. Uh.
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Oh. No. No.
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I could never. I’ve watched what she was in. Before she started doing porn.
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Uh uh. Nope. Was that good or bad? Oh no.
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I can’t tell you what she used to be in. You can google that. Maitland Ward.
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Good luck. It’s going to put bad thoughts. Into your head though.
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Not bad thoughts. Yeah. Nope.
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I can’t tell you. She is an actor. She got her start in mainstream.
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Acting. As a very. Young.
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Person. And then. When she was an adult.
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She moved into. Porn. Oh no.
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Yeah. That’s why. Nope.
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More power to her. I hope she makes a whole shit ton of money. Good for her.
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But uh. I can’t tell you the list. Of what she used to be on.
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Not because what she was on was bad. It was because of how old she was. So moving.
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Quickly on from there. It’s the same. Level of squick that I get.
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From all the people who have like. Like the. Countdown timer.
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Until like uh. Various. Actresses turn 18.
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Like that. Ew. Squeaky.
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Patty said yes. Let’s get away from that train wreck. It’s uncomfortable.
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Patty’s like. Finding a feminization mistress. Desperately.
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Desperately trying to get back on track. Okay. So.
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You have. You know what you want. You have.
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Reached out. To whomever it is. You think you might enjoy.
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Having some fun with. They have hopefully responded to you. Positively.
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To your overture. And now you can start. Negotiating for what you would like.
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To experience. Now if this is a. Professional that you’re hiring. To do.
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An in-person makeover. With yourself. They’re going to want to know.
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Okay colors. What kind of style are you looking for. Do you want to try to pass.
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Or are we going for something. Highly stylized. Like what.
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What’s your fashion. Icons. What do you want to look like.
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By the time that we’re finished. If. It is like if you’re calling.
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Because you want to talk to me. As a random example. I’m going to want to know.
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What’s what’s your fantasy. What what is the thing. Because.
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I’m going to assume. That if you’re talking to me. Sex and sexuality.
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Are probably going to come up. Because that’s my job. That’s what I do.
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So I have this automatic. Baseline assumption. That the odds are very good.
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We’re going to talk about. Something sexy. If all that you want.
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Is advice. Putting together an outfit. Okay great.
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We can definitely do that. Say that. So that I’m not.
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Overly sexual. In your general direction. When that’s not what you were looking for.
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If what you want. Is fashion advice. That’s very different from.
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Okay we’re going to get you all dressed up. And you know. Not too many details about that.
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And then we’re going to move on to. Cocksucking. Hoeing you out.
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You’re going to be a slut. Blah blah blah. Right? When all you really wanted was.
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No no I want you to look at this website. And tell me which of these dresses is cute. Very different sorts of scenarios.
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So. To tell me. Patty said.
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There may be other cheaper options. If all you want is fashion advice. It depends.
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Do you trust the person who’s given you fashion advice? Do you know. Where to go. To find.
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Whatever it is that you’re looking for. I know. Several different places to go.
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To find both custom. And off the rack. Stylized sissy outfits.
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So like. Close your eyes and think. About a sissy.
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I know where to get those clothes. Like I know where to get. I know where to get that.
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Whether that’s off of Etsy. Where you’re getting something. That’s made custom just for you.
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One piece at a time. Or there’s some. Larger websites.
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Where you can go to the sissy store. For example. Where it is often custom.
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It’ll take a little bit longer. To get shipped to you. But their stuff’s pretty good.
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Considering it’s not. Completely custom. It’s.
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You know. I also know. Which mainstream.
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Clothing companies. Produce clothing. In sizes that would fit.
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A typically masculine body. Most men. Are taller and broader.
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Than women are. And. Are shaped a little bit differently.
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I know where to go. To get you. Cute clothing.
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In sizes that are likely to fit you. Kylie says. I don’t need fashion advice.
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I’m a natural. And then shared a picture from the 1970s. Girl.
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I mean it’s a cute. Like vest. And very pointy collar.
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With some embroidery details. Little pantsuit outfit. But yeah.
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Um. You’re gonna have to hire somebody. To make that for you.
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And you’d probably look on Etsy for that. It’s a very straight leg. God.
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And he said. As a trans woman. Having a personal stylist.
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To help with my wardrobe. Would count as feminization? Technically. Yeah.
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So they guess. Said Salvation Army. Might be a good place for that kind of stuff.
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Uh. I mean it can be for the old stuff. That’s practically.
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Fucking vintage at this point. So you’re probably looking at them. Slightly more upscale boutique.
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To find that. The picture that Kylie sent. Um.
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So. If you’re interested in cross-dressing. And you want to be able to pass.
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You want to wear like. The same sorts of clothing. That other women wear.
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Um. Torrid has larger sizes. Um.
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Hot Topic has larger sizes. As well. In more trendy type clothing.
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And Lane Bryant. Lane Bryant’s a little bit more conservative leaning. A little bit more stuffy.
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Um. Less edgy. Hot Topic.
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I mean come on. Graphic tees. But also Hot Topic does have some pretty cute.
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Um. Some of their pants are adorable. They’ve got some skirts.
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They’ve got some dresses. Torrid. Torrid has some really cute shit.
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Um. You may have to sort through. In order to find exactly what’s going to fit.
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Your personal vibe. But those three. Are mainstream.
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You can shop. Online. And they have free returns.
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Or at least they did the last time I looked at them. So. Yeah.
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You can find them. And often times shop off the clearance section. Because come on.
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Hello. Yeah. You can get the staples of your wardrobe.
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That way in sizes that are going to fit you. So. For advice about all that kind of stuff.
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Yes absolutely. But if you’re going to. If that’s the kind of stuff that you want.
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Say so. Because otherwise I’m going to be like. Oh what about this.
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It’s cute for date night. Guys will be all over you. And if that’s not what you want.
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You have to again communicate that. You have to say it. Also if you can fit in fairly.
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Small sizes. So like. Medium.
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For most dudes. Is usually a large. Extra large in women’s sizes.
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Ish. It depends on the brand. It depends on what it’s made out of.
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But. Jeans are often sold. You know like a 32.
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That means it’s literally a 32 inch waist. So if you know what size you wear. In say Levi’s.
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You know what size you wear. In women’s Levi’s too. Patty said.
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I wear an extra large men’s. I’m fucked. The three companies that I already told you about.
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Torrid has stuff that will fit you. You’re. You’re going to be looking for extra.
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Extra large. So either 2X or 3X. In women’s sizes.
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Probably just 2X. So. Torrid.
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T-O-R-R-I-D. Hot Topic. And both of those have.
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Canadian. Storefronts. Yeah.
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Patty said US sizes are chaotic. They really are. There’s such a pain in the ass.
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Which is why I like to emphasize companies. That will let you do free returns. Because.
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You’re going to have to get stuff. And try it on. You have to try it on.
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And then if it doesn’t fit. Just send it the fuck back. You can also shop off Amazon.
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Because often times free returns. Absolutely vital. To be able to say nope.
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That didn’t fit. And send it back. And either get one in the size that fits better.
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Or get something different. Okay. So.
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Salinas. Said. Fredericks of Hollywood.
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Little. Little slutty. Little bit.
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Patty said I might take down those names. When I think about getting more of a wardrobe. Absolutely.
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Girl. Because shopping is fun. And being able to find stuff.
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In the size that’s going to work for you. It’s you know. It’s important.
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But girls need fancy clothing too. I have to check a few tabs. Real quick.
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Oh. So the last step of course. Is actually.
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Doing. Your session. Whether this is.
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Pick up play at a party. Where you just want somebody to. I mean.
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If you go to. A party. And you want somebody to feminize you.
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I hope you brought. Stuff. With you.
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So this is the part. Where I tell you to be prepared. Have your things.
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With you. You can’t just go. To a pick up party.
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And expect somebody there. To be like oh yeah. I carry a full wardrobe.
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With me at all times. Because. No.
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Be reasonable. If you want somebody. To put you in a dress.
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And then spank you. While calling you. A dirty slut.
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Great. Fabulous. Wonderful.
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Bring the dress. Have the dress ready. If you want to call me.
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And have me put you in a dress. You have to actually have the dress. I hate.
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To be the one to break it to you. But I cannot manifest a dress. Through the phone.
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It’s not. It’s a phone. This isn’t Star Trek.
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I cannot beam it up. You have to actually have it on hand. So just like with any.
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Of your sessions. If you have specific. Things you would like to use.
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Know where they are. Before you call. Have it on hand.
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You may need lube. You may need a dildo. If you’re like I want to suck a cock for you.
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Okay great. Do you have one? Do you have a cock to suck? Attached to a person. Or otherwise? Do you have something? Or are we just using the power.
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Of our imaginations today? Both are fun. Technically there’s a non zero percent. Overlap.
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In the people who go to kinky parties. And the people who would carry a full wardrobe. Everywhere they go.
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But that’s not a safe assumption to make. No. You cannot assume that.
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I’m going to carry a wardrobe. In your size. I might have a wardrobe.
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In my size. I do not carry a wardrobe. Everywhere I go.
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I do have a cock attached to a person. But it’s probably the only one I can’t suck on. I mean just get flexible.
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Come on man. Do some Pilates. Get flexy.
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Get in there. So have what you need. Ahead of time.
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I cannot tell you. How many chaotic bitches. Have tried to set up a session.
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With me and then. Look if you want to do this on discord. So that you can have it on camera.
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Great. Fun. I like.
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I want to see your outfit. I want to see you all dressed up. I love that shit.
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That’s so much fun. So there’s one time somebody calls. And they’re on discord.
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And they’re talking to me. And they’re like oh let me get my outfit. And they walk away from their computer.
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So all I can see is a wall. And I can hear them. Kind of moving around.
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Because they’re literally. Off camera. Somewhere in that room.
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Trying to find. Their stockings. So.
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Maybe. Don’t do that. Have your stuff on hand.
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So that you don’t have to stop. And pause and be like hang on. I have to go find.
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My fishnets. Okay. I can sit here.
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And stare at a wall for a while. But also you do know you pay by the minute. It seems wasteful.
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It’s your money. But also. Buddy.
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Some bitches are chaotic. I respect it. I respect that.
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I’ve done that. It was only a three second grab of a dildo. And I didn’t leave the call.
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Oh no. They don’t leave the call. I can still hear them.
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They can hear me. And I try to talk to them. I’m like so.
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You lost your stockings. What’s the craziest thing a caller wanted you to do to them. While they were on camera.
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I can’t tell you. Second most crazy. I can’t tell you that one either.
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Okay. I can probably tell you. It was very unsafe.
(57:59 – 58:06)
And I don’t recommend that you do it. But it involved a. Toilet plunger. Handle.
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Buddy said. Can’t for privacy reasons. Or safety reasons.
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Safety. Also terms of service. I’ve seen some things.
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Look. I can’t tell people. To do certain things.
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But I also don’t have the ability. To reach through the internet. And make them stop.
(58:35 – 58:45)
So I can tell you. I don’t think that’s a good idea. And if they want to keep going.
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Okay. I can’t make you. Not do that.
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I have the best job. This is the latest. When you said plunger.
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I got scared. Yeah. I don’t recommend it.
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Like. Don’t do that. Please don’t do that.
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But it was very crazy. And it definitely left an impression. In my mind.
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Okay. Horse school is adult. Sex education.
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Content warnings. Before I start talking about things like. Plungers.
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Sometimes that slips through though. Sorry about that. Check out my blog.
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Fetishphonesexblog.com And my latest post. On Sissyville.com I am a professional. Femdom.
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Phone sex. Mistress. You can talk to me on the phone.
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I’m fun to talk to. Thank you guys. For listening.
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I hope you now know a little bit more. About how to go about. Finding yourself a feminization mistress.
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I will talk to you all again. Next week. In October.
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Good night.
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