WS 468 Adult Education

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WS 468 Adult Education

 

Originally airing live October 12, 2025, Adult Education is all about the precepts of learning as an adult! When we’re younger, we learn with ease, knowledge absobred like sponges. For adults, learning new information can be beset with roadblocks and hurdles to overcome, but never fear, there are tips and techniques to maximize your learning, even after your 30th birthday. Or your venerable seventies! Learning has no age limit, just a few difficulties, and you’ll learn about them here:

 

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I do so love my stinger. It’s so fun. This is Whore School Live because it’s Sunday.

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I’m staying up late for you. The least you can do is join the chat. Go to communitykink.com. The chat room is open.

Come forth. Join me. One of us.

One of us. What are we talking about? Oh my god. Continuing education for adults on account of this is Whore School, an adult sex education podcast.

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I’m going to give you some tips. You’re going to learn something. Whore School has been on the air for years.

This is episode number 468, if that gives you a hint at all. That should give you a hint. That should be.

Sorry, I just read something really funny and I have to go back to that later. Okay, Whore School’s adult sex education. I feel like I’m a little bit deep into the weeds at this point because maybe, just maybe, I should have talked about tactics for adult learners before and I didn’t, which is my bad.

That’s my bad. Hey, Addy, I know you’re listening, but you’re not in the chat room. Yeah, I was on the wrong dashboard.

Tab hopping. Patty’s just learning things as an adult. Tina said, is this an episode for Patty again? No, this is an episode for all of us.

It’s come up because I do a bunch of audio stuff. I do audios and I have written some guides for myself and for the other ladies to be like, this is how to do an audio in a way that is clear and concise and simple and hopefully not scary at all because an awful lot of people, when faced with learning a brand new skill as a full-ass grown-up, get a little intimidated by it. It’s nerve-wracking.

This is normal. Adult learners are very different from the youth. I mean it.

The youth, they learn differently than adults do, especially adults who might be older, like an adult. You’re an adult, like an actual, like an adult adult, a grown-ass adult human being is a very different creature, concept, entity than somebody who’s much, much younger and there’s a couple of reasons why. So let’s start off with a little bit of history because you know how much I love that shit.

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Like I am here for the history. Like just straight up, I’m right here for it. So in 1833, we’re going well back in time, in 1833 German educator Alexander Kapp coined a term andragogy.

Andragogy is different from pedagogy. Okay. Pedagogy, you probably have heard the word pedagogy at some point and you know, you probably think it’s like, oh well it’s just the way things are done, right? No.

Pedagogy is the method and practice of teaching, especially as an academic subject or a theoretical concept, but pedagogy refers to teaching youth, young people, where andragogy refers to teaching old people. And Patty says, I’ve heard the term, not the way you were pronouncing it. Hey, what? What’s wrong with pedagogy? That’s how I’ve always heard it.

It might be a Southern Texas thing versus a Canadian thing. Addie was here and then Addie left. Stable internet connections, stable websites.

Yeah. So Tina said, this reminds me of change management and change management is the structured process of preparing, equipping, and supporting individuals to successfully adopt change within an organization. Probably.

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Yes. Because oftentimes when you’re introducing systemic change within an organization, you’re dealing with adults. And also you’re in France where people actually meaningfully protest and riot.

And therefore people in France have way more rights than people in America. That’s an entirely different subject, but it goes to also things about systemic change within corporate structures. So that’s a big one because over here in the United States, we don’t have that.

We don’t do that over here. And it sucks. There’s none of that.

Supporting individuals to successfully adopt change. Yeah. Nope.

Hey, Kylie joined us tonight. Oh, Patty says she might not be here for the whole night. She had Thanksgiving and is now tired.

That’s fair. That’s legit. So in non-Horse School related stuff, I did a hair mask for myself today.

And let me tell you, so I haven’t cut my hair in a while. So it’s very, very long. My pictures are slightly out of date.

It looks like my hair is like shoulder length-ish, a little bit beyond shoulder length. And honestly, I should cut it to that length because it’s a healthier length on me. But currently my hair is down to mid-back, which means doing a hair mask uses a lot of product.

Holy hell. Whoops. So I’m also tired from doing a hair mask my life.

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Sizziety says, I wish my hair reached my ass. Well, maybe that will be next week’s episode. How to make your hair reach your butt.

There’s tactics for that. There’s a way to do it. I’m not going to teach you right this second because I’m going to teach you about adult learners instead.

And he’s like, yay. Yeah, I’ve got multiple tabs open for you guys. Okay.

After 1833, Alexander Kapp, a German educator, came up with the term Androgaghi. But it was followed up in 1973 by Malcolm Knowles, writing a book called The Adult Learner, A Neglected Species. Basically, he was interested in people who want to learn stuff and the differences between teaching people who are youth and teaching people who are full grown-ass motherfucking adults.

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So he says, there’s five important assumptions to make about people who are an adult learner that are very, very different from the way that people who are younger learn and think about themselves. So first up, the Institute on Aging lays out the differences between learning for people who are young and people who are, you know, adults who have responsibilities and are out there in the world doing stuff. Hey, uh, Sillidecas.

I always say that fucking wrong. I don’t speak that language. Patty said, in this context, is full grown motherfucking ass adults given a different definition from just adult? As in well above 18? Oh, yeah.

Adult, 20s, 30s, 40s. The older you get, the more this is relevant. If you’re still in your 20s, you probably, you still have a little bit of the youth mindset working for you.

Once you’re in your 30s, your 40s, your 50s. Oh, this shit. This, this, this comes for you.

This comes for you hard. Okay, so the youth, they rely on other people to decide what’s important to be learned. Right? Somebody else tells you, this is the important stuff that you need to know.

And as a youth, you go, oh, okay. Because the person teaching you is the expert. And of course, they would tell you what’s important.

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Adults, we get to decide for ourselves. And if a grown ass adult decides that whatever it is you’re trying to teach them isn’t important, they ain’t gonna learn it. They’re not going to, they’re not going to learn it.

So if you want to teach an adult something, you have to make it relevant. Okay, youths accept information being presented at face value. Okay, yes, my teacher said it is so, therefore, that’s the way it is.

Adults validate information based on their own existing beliefs and life experience. Adults are more likely to test things that are being taught to them against their own pre-existing bias, their own knowledge base, and their own lived experiences. And if they decide that based on all of that, the person who’s trying to teach them is full of shit, they ain’t gonna learn from you.

The youths have little or no experience and are relatively clean slates. Adults, fixed viewpoints, plenty of experience. Yeah, they might already know at least something about whatever it is you’re trying to teach them.

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They might have learned it wrongly too. The youths expect what they are learning to be useful in the long-term future. Adults expect what they are learning to be useful right now.

It must be relevant now. Learning something that, oh, I’ll use this in like five years. No, no thank you.

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That sounds boring. The youths have little ability to serve as a knowledgeable resource to teachers or fellow classmates because blank slate. Whereas adults can be a very knowledgeable resource for trainers and fellow learners.

Pop back in to the chat. Patty says, this might not fully apply to me. I’m only 20.

You’re on the edges of it applying to you. You’re in university, which means you are, as you advance through the levels of your schooling, by the time you reach upper level courses and like graduate level classes. So if you go for your master’s degree or an advanced degree, this will become very relevant.

Very relevant. So yeah. And Tina says some old people still struggle with the internet.

Yeah, they do. Learning new shit as an older person is upsetting, frustrating, and annoying. Because oftentimes all those things that I was just, you know, you have to decide for yourself what’s important.

You need to validate it based on your own beliefs and experience. You have preexisting experience. You expect shit to be immediately useful.

And so if you try to learn stuff and they start teaching you as if you were in kindergarten, oh, it’s not gonna work. Patty said, is this why there are so many people that are just wrong about things and not caring about the truth? Partly. There’s a couple other reasons too, but don’t worry.

I’m going to teach you about them. So adults thrive in independent learning and training scenarios. Sitting in a classroom with a whole bunch of other people.

Most of the time, the older you get, the less appealing that is. Adults tend to learn experientially. They learn from firsthand observation and interactions.

They learn by doing, not by sitting and listening to a lecture. So in many ways, this podcast is not useful for adults trying to learn stuff because you learn better by doing. And Patty, you literally are proof of that because last week’s episode, I immediately forget, was about Locktober.

Last week episode was Locktober and I talked about mental chastity. And what did you just spend the past six days doing? Was it mental chastity? The longest time you’ve ever refrained? Were you in mental chastity for six days? Did you have to experience it in order to really internalize and learn it more deeply? Yeah. That’s why oftentimes when I’m talking about a topic, I talk about how to do things and specifically how to do things safely for people.

Because I know you’re going to do it. You’re going to do the thing because adult learners are experiential. They want to give it a whirl.

They want to try it. Patty said, it was just an experiment. Uh-huh.

They want to experience it. Susie Addie said, one thing I noticed, mostly with my parents, is that some people actually don’t want to learn at all. They deliberately say, fuck this every time and ask me instead.

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Yeah. That also happens a whole lot. And it’s because learning as an adult is really fucking hard.

There’s a thing called neuroplasticity. And the older you get, the less of that you have. Sucks.

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Okay. So the five assumptions of an adult for teaching an adult, self-concept, independent learning, training scenarios, experience, adults learn experientially. A readiness to learn.

Adults are attracted to learning most when they know clear objectives. Why the fuck am I going to waste my time and energy and effort learning something if it’s not going to immediately positively benefit me and my life? What the fuck use is that? And that’s the attitude for the vast majority of adults. Patty said, this is going to make me even more anxious about getting older, isn’t it? I mean, no.

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Okay. Orientation to learning. Adults learn best when the topic is of immediate value and the motivation to learn.

Adults are motivated by internal factors rather than external pressures. So let’s talk about neuroplasticity. What’s neuroplasticity? Neuroplasticity is your brain can be very, very flexible and learn new information extremely quickly, which is much, much easier when you’re younger.

That’s why nowadays we know if you, kids who grew up in two language homes, they pick up both languages, right? And they learn them naturally, smoothly, the same way that you learn your first language. If you introduce a new language to a very, very, very young person, the younger they are, the easier it is for them to learn that new language. So in the United States, we usually start new language classes in high school.

So 13 or 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, in that age range. And ideally, we should start new language lessons younger because the brain is even more plastic when younger and it’s easier to pick up a language. If you want to try to learn a new language as an adult learner, it’s much, much more difficult because your brain is less plastic, less flexible.

There are ways to ensure that your brain stays happy and flexible and capable of consuming new information, which is why there’s an entire set of academic theories around adult learners. Addie is complaining about old people and their internet issues. She said, I’d make you think they’d be interested in having their password somewhere safe, but no.

Why care about internet safety? Why read stuff before randomly clicking links and getting all the possible viruses? Yeah. Silladagas said, learning as an adult can be harder because the method or technology used in learning, i.e. online classes, is different from what they’re used to studying from a book. Well, the methods used like back in ye olden days, so boomers, Gen X, elder millennials, the methods that kids back then were taught to learn involved brute memorization.

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Like rote, brute memorization of facts, oftentimes. So the learning multiplication tables, right, often involved literally writing it down a hundred times. Instead of learning how math works.

Yeah. Addie said, fun fact, just memorization isn’t exactly useful in all contexts. That’s very true.

And also, brute, rote memorization becomes much more difficult as you age. So if that’s the way that you think you’re supposed to learn, like reading it out of a book is supposed to be like you get a book, right? You open it up, open the book and you read it. And now you’ve learned things.

Hey, guess what? As you age, your neuroplasticity decreases. Your ability to retain information when you’ve only read it, tanks. Whoops.

Brains are fun. Yeah. Tina’s from France.

She says, we start learning English at around six or seven years. And Patty says, in Canada, we learned French starting around grade four. Yes.

Yeah. So in addition to just not having as much of a flexible mind and a flexible brain that can handle an active mind, as you age, you also, you lose a little bit of your ability. Like your memory gets worse.

You will forget things. And it’s because you have more life experience. There’s more stuff in your head now.

So of course, you’re going to lose a few bits. See, Kylie says, it’s something that’s changing for the better in US schools. Not much is.

There is more language being taught younger. Yeah. Because we know if you start teaching them when they’re very, very young, they retain more of it for longer.

Like I took French in high school and college. So, je parle un petit moment de la francaise. Petite.

Un petit moment. Like very, very, very fucking little. Okay.

And I can speak a little bit of Spanish. Like I can order a burger and a beer and ask for the bathroom. And that’s about it.

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Patty said that was honestly not bad. Merci. And the Spanish that I can speak is because I worked a retail job.

There were a bunch of Spanish speaking people that I needed to be able to interact with. Kylie says, I am the same way with my French. He says, but you can’t say seal day, Gaz.

You want me to say that with a Texas accent? Because I can. Spell it better. My brain does the same thing when faced with literally anything in Gaelic or Welsh.

I’m just I don’t speak that language. See, and Patty says, it’s more of a sentence than I could do. I’ve kind of stopped caring about French.

I know all the theory, most of the conjugation, but honestly, I stopped caring. That’s the key. As an adult learner, if you don’t give a fuck, you ain’t gonna learn it because you were not personally invested in learning the thing.

So, adult sex education. Usually people are not listening to this podcast because they’re not interested in it. Celia said, you know, someone is coming up this October 31st.

No, really? I can say that name correctly. So, uh, as an adult learner, adults appreciate repetition a lot because it helps us learn better. It really does.

Adults are self-directing. We learn by doing. We want it to be fucking relevant.

We utilize our own life experiences. Like we relate shit back to ourselves all the time. Most adult learners don’t thrive as well in a lecture style environment.

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Fucking duh. It’s also very, very true that most adults. So, when you were younger, right, you could listen to a lecture or watch a documentary and learn stuff from it, right? You could sit and passively experience information and retain it.

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You might have taken a few notes if you were a special student who had been taught how to take proper notes from your lecture. But there are some people you may discover as you age that certain types of educational material are better for you than others. Some people love like a video lecture.

They love to listen to it. They love podcasts. Hey, they love to hear the stuff spoken to them.

I do not do well on a personal level with trying to learn something just from somebody talking. I get bored. Sorry.

Patty says, I think I learned pretty well with lecture form. I don’t. Not anymore.

Not anymore. The older I get, the less well I do with pure lecture. I can listen to a podcast if it’s entertaining.

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If it’s an educational podcast, it’s going to frustrate the absolute fuck out of me. See, Addie said, OMG, yes, I can’t deal with just reading anymore. Yeah, some people need it.

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In audio format. Some people need it in video format. Some people need pictures.

They need something visual to look at. They need graphs and charts. They need it written down in front of them.

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They need it. Some people need a combination of all of those things. Tina says, yep, me too.

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Lecture is boring. Yep. And Addie said, yeah, just listening also doesn’t work.

I need both. She says, now I’m feeling 70. No, it’s just a thing that happens to brains.

And also it turns out you were like this in your youth too. You just didn’t notice. Because in your youth, everybody goes to school.

Everybody sits quietly. Everybody listens to the lecture. And also, if your teachers were any good at all, they provided you with multiple types of ways to interact with the information.

So there may have been a video that you watch, and then there’s a lecture, and then there’s a section you’re supposed to read in your book, and you’re supposed to write an essay about it. That’s four different ways to interact with all of that information, which is why you learned it. As an adult learner, oftentimes information is not presented that effectively.

It’s either, here’s a book, go forth, or here’s a lecture. Now, fuck off. You’re supposed to have learned this already.

You don’t get the, okay, and now we’re all going to go over here. And like for math, did you ever play with the blocks and stuff to make numbers real and physical in front of you? That’s because some people can’t learn math without touching it. Like actually picking up three apples and going, look, three things.

One, two, three. Three minus one is two. That’s why when you were younger, that’s how you learned.

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Tina said, but practicing is the best way. She said, I tend to prefer audio and visual pictures to memorize, but practicing is the best way. For an awful lot of people, yes.

For most people, yeah. Yeah. But adult learners don’t get presented information like that, and that wacky, which is also why, so I cannot, I can’t actually reach through the internet.

I can’t reach through your speakers and hand you a condom and a dildo. And this is how to put a condom onto the dildo. But I describe it in as much visual terminology as I possibly can.

If you’re in the chat room, oftentimes I will give you pictures of what I’m talking about, boom, for that visual element. I repeat what I say multiple times. There’s a reason there’s so much repetition in horse school.

If you go back and listen to any of the previous episodes, you will notice I pick like two or three major points I want to hit. And I hit those repeatedly because adult learners need the repetition. I give you advice and tips and tricks for when you go and do the stuff.

And you might not, because if it’s not a thing that’s immediately relevant to you, obviously you’re not going to go do it. Not everybody is going to be like, oh yeah, I’m definitely going to go, you know, put down a dollar store shower curtain and open a can of beans to experience sploshing. But I’m still going to tell you, put down a fucking tarp.

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It makes cleanup so much easier. Right? Just in case. In case you are one of the people who says, oh, that sounds fun.

Let’s do that. All right. Well, here’s how to do that.

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See? Satwin said, just do it in the bathroom. No, you will clog your drain and nothing, nothing is worse than having to explain to a plumber how you got beans down your shower drain. Use a tarp.

Get a dollar store, fucking $1 shower curtain. And then you can just throw the whole thing away. Trust me.

So much easier. Don’t do that to your plumbing. It’s expensive and embarrassing because eventually he’s going to run the snake through the drain and then he’s going to look at you and be like, why were there beans? Anyway, don’t put beans in your bathtub.

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Please don’t do that. So adults will also guide their own development. They set their own goals and they require an ownership over what they’re learning.

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So the idea is, okay, how did you get beans there? Right? Splashing. It’s fun. And I didn’t have a shower curtain.

Whoops. I didn’t have a, I didn’t have a tarp. That’s how you get beans in the bathtub.

And he’s like, splashing. Oh, honey. And he said, don’t ask too late.

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A wet and messy is what it’s called. It’s a food fetish. Basically.

Some people enjoy sitting in a cake and then letting somebody eat the cake possibly off their body. But splashing usually involves, it’s a sensory play involving fun sensations all over your skin. Sometimes it’s with humiliation.

Sometimes it’s as part of ABDL. Sometimes it’s other issues that are going on there. Kylie said, I enjoy a good Hoboken cobbler.

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Yep. There you go. Addie googled it.

RIP your Google history. Yeah. Fun with textures.

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Okay. So adult learners will only learn stuff if they’re invested in it. If they can see immediate relevance to themself in their life, which just fucking makes sense.

Like, duh. So earlier, Patty was upset a little bit about the idea that you’re, she said, so my brain is going to start turning to mush. No, not really.

This is a thing that happens to literally everybody. It’s only a really, really massive problem. If you wind up with dementia or early onset dementia, that’s a problem.

And that’s a neurodegenerative illness that some people get to have. So Patty wanted to know any tips for unlearning things as an adult. You unlearn by being exposed to the correct information or proper information repeatedly.

Because a lot of the times, the things that you want to unlearn are lessons you learned as a kid. And the lessons you would like to unlearn from your youth are lessons that were probably repeated a lot for you. Like it was repeated again and again and again and again, and became internalized oftentimes for as a type of self-defense.

In the chat, Tina said, I was reading a BDSM blog today, and someone had put pasta and sauce in a diaper that the person had to wear. And Addy said, this gave me anxiety. I wasn’t raised like a normal kid, playing with sand, mud and stuff.

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So I’m all weird with sensations. She says, oh, I used to have panic attacks when we had to create those handprint paintings. Oh, you can continue to live your life because the odds that you’re going to have to create a handprint painting ever again, slim to none.

Or you could try to explore for yourself in a safe way, weird textures. Like I, Kylie said, never say never. I have a thing about, so if I’m washing the dishes and I touch wet food, oh, I hate that sensation.

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Oh, I hate that. The worst. But you still got to wash the dishes.

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Patty said, you just gave me a very physical reaction. Yeah, because it’s gross. So sometimes, some textures, you just, you gotta, you gotta interact with them.

And exposing yourself to them in a safe way, where you know that you can immediately wash it off if it truly becomes too much, can build your capacity to deal with weird, touchy things. And he’s like, wet chicken skin. Oh, no.

Wet bread. Not a fan. Not a fan.

I don’t like that. Also in the chat, Tina said, oh, by the way, is ABDL banned on Enchantrix Empire? It doesn’t seem to be a popular topic. That one’s tricky.

Because no, it’s not banned. We just can’t talk about it publicly. Because our payment processors are prudes.

And seen. So unlearning things or learning as an adult to tolerate new things. This is directly applicable if you say, decide to start going to therapy.

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Because your therapist is probably going to help you learn all sorts of new things. Patty said, damn it. This is me now, isn’t it? No.

I mean, yes, because you are in therapy, which good for you. But also this is for every fucking body. Like everybody.

When you as an adult start going to therapy, one of the things your therapist is absolutely going to do is start teaching you new things, new coping skills, new thought patterns. Oh, Kylie said my therapist has the COVID. Sorry, that sucks.

I hope they get well quickly. Your therapist will be teaching you things. So knowing this is also the number one reason why therapy is only useful if you really want it to work.

Right? It’s only useful if you see the relevance of it. Like if you go to therapy, because you know, court mandated therapy often fails, because the people who are there don’t want to be. They don’t want to be there.

They don’t see any relevance to their life. This is stupid and terrible and awful. And I’m not gonna do it.

So they don’t learn. You can be the best therapist in the whole entire world. But if you as an individual don’t want to know this, and you don’t, you’re just frustrated and annoyed and like, fuck you.

You ain’t gonna learn shit. I know an awful lot of people in my life who I’m like, wow, they need therapy. But until they reach a point where they go, hey, you know what, I need therapy.

It doesn’t matter what my opinion of their mental health may or may not be. If you decide you need therapy, it’s far more likely to be useful to you than if somebody else makes you go. So for folks who have a spouse, and the spouse says, we need therapy, we need to go to couples counseling, and you say, I don’t wanna.

One, it’s not gonna be useful for you. And two, the odds are extremely good that if one partner wants therapy, and the other partner doesn’t want therapy, the therapy will fail. And whatever issue sparked the first partner going, hey, we need therapy, that issue is not going to get addressed.

The problem remains, and the relationship is in danger. Yeah, Tina said, I also think therapist and patient have to be compatible a little. It does.

It requires that both halves of the patient therapist dyad work together. Like both halves have to be working towards a common goal. And trust me, when you go to therapy, your therapist is going to ask you, what do you want? What’s your goal? What’s the end point? Where are we going? Because you’re more likely to succeed if you set the goal.

And you’re also more likely to succeed at learning things as an adult if you set the goal. So if you say, I want to learn a new language, great. Make your goal as concrete and real as you possibly can.

So I’m going to learn this specific language in this specific timeline, so that I can travel the world so that I can be a better member of my community and talk to the people who keep playing the very loud Tejano music and ask them politely and nicely in a language they understand to turn that shit down. And for example, Addie said, why can’t I send images here? I don’t know. You should be able to.

I don’t think we took that away. Patty said, so what’s the context if my continued drive to go to therapy is, I know it’s good for me. In whatever context we start to talk about.

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I mean, general better well-being, that’s good. But I mean, you can also probably talk to your therapist and be like, so what’s the goal here? And your therapist would be like, dude, you’re supposed to know that. The camera thingy.

Oh, take a photo. I don’t know if it will let you do that, but try add file and it should let you upload something. There’s a bunch of like the the chat program came as a package deal and some of the features are not turned on, but the buttons still show up.

Oh, it’s not on the mobile version. Oh yeah. Patty said that she had to change therapists.

So it’s back to square one. Yeah. Because you have to rebuild a new relationship with the new person.

So yeah, there is a fair amount of, okay, it’s a new person. We’re starting over again. Back to building the relationship back up.

And so having a clear goal, why are you in therapy? That can be extremely useful. For the same reason, you know, why do you want to, so for work purposes, I do phone sex. I talk dirty on the phone, but I also, I write, I write my blogs.

I edit my blogs. I add the SEO, the search engine optimization to my blogs. That’s three whole tasks.

I make the images for my blogs. I use Canva most of the time to make those images. That’s a fourth.

I make audios so I can record an audio that sounds good and sexy. I can edit that audio. I can upload the audio to one of our file servers, or I’m just a couple of different ways that I could use to get an audio to people.

I know all of those. I do a podcast. I do two podcasts.

Actually, I do this. I do Fimdom Fridays, which airs every Friday evening at 9 p.m. via our Discord server. I run our Discord server.

I built that. I made that the way that it is. I set that up.

You’re welcome. Discord.gg slash Intantrix Empire. I moderate the Discord server.

I control the Discord server. I do a lot of shit for work, and all of those are discrete skills that I had to learn as an adult. And every time something changes, so we used to do the live podcasts via Spreaker.

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Spreaker got rid of streaming because Spreaker got bought out by iHeartRadio and their cocks. So, now we stream on Podbean instead. So, switching and learning a whole new platform.

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That sucked. Learning BlueSky. That sucked.

We recently had to switch the program that we use for our social media network, the Intantrix Empire. If you go to IntantrixEmpire.net, that will take you to our social media, because it used to be IntantrixEmpire.com. Don’t go over there. Go back to .net. Patty said, basically, Harper is the best and succeeded in learning things as an adult, so you have no excuses.

No. I’m just acknowledging, look, all of those were hard to learn. All of those were difficult and tricky, and it was a pain in the ass, but worth it.

Worth it. You have to be motivated to learn new stuff. Yup.

Kylie says, learning a new platform when Spotify yanked off my 2,500 listeners per week podcast and took off my premium, leaving a $700 hole in my monthly budget, really sucked. Yes, it does. All of this sucks, because it’s frustrating, and it’s annoying, and your own brain is being a dick.

Your brain is literally being a dick to you, and you live with your brain. It’s inside your own fucking skull. There’s nothing you can do about the fact that sometimes your brain’s just going to be like, yeah, I’m fucking brains.

It is massively frustrating. If you are an adult who wants to learn a new skill, get very concrete about exactly what you’re going to learn and why. Your motivation, your intrinsic motivation, your internal motivation is very, very important, because it’s going to keep you on task even if you get frustrated or bored, because frustration and boredom, they are the mind killer.

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As long as you can manage your frustration and your boredom, you can get there. You can get to a place where you can learn new things. So, learning to recognize when you are feeling frustration.

Yeah, Maddie said, I lost that back in the 2010s. No motivation left around these parts. That’s also a thing that frequently happens.

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If you have no intrinsic motivation, find an extrinsic motivation. I’ve often found that for learning a new thing for work, hey, I want money. Hey, I’m suddenly motivated.

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You mean I can make money by doing this? Sweet. Sign me the fuck up. An external motivation can work.

Internal motivation is better for adult learners. We’re more likely to remain on task for an internal reason. So, sometimes I do stuff out of spite.

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Sometimes I learn new tech platforms because I’m mad. The reason I always mention the fact that Spreaker got bought by iHeartRadio and they’re cocks. Yeah, I hold a grudge.

So, I’m on Podbean. I learned how to use Podbean because Spreaker was being a cock. I learned Discord.

Okay, I learned Discord for several reasons. One was an intrinsic motivation because in 2020, during a certain lockdown situation, all of my friends were online and I wanted to talk to them. So, partially external motivation, partially internal motivation.

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I learned server architecture because I wanted to flex on people. Patty says, OMG, wait. I’m literally doing something out of spite right now after getting frustrated with a different thing.

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Damn it. Yes, spite will get you. Sissy Addie said, Ms. Harper, what’s your Zodiac sign again? Sagittarius.

Shut up. Kylie said, spite is the greatest motivator. I do so much stuff through spite.

It’s an intrinsic motivation too. It’s a motivation that’s rooted directly in an emotional state of being. You pissed me off.

Now I’m going to do the thing. Spite will motivate the hell out of you. Addie said, spite is kind of cool.

Spite is hella cool. I do a lot of stuff just to be spiteful. Anytime somebody says, you can’t do that.

It’s too hard. Excuse you? Oh, you just basically guaranteed I’m going to do the thing. Like, no, now it’s definitely going to happen.

Alright, managing your motivation and managing your frustration. Frustration makes it harder for you to learn. Spite can keep you on task.

Frustration is highly demotivating. Frustration is very closely linked for most people with shame. You can go and listen to any of the previous episodes about guilt and shame to know my opinion of both of those motherfuckers.

Shame demotivates you and frustration also demotivates you. When you find yourself becoming frustrated with something, take a break. Set a timer.

You have a smartphone. Set a timer on your phone. 10 or 15 minutes and take a break.

Go outside. Go where there’s green stuff and breathe. Breathe.

Go out there. Take a break and let your nervous system return to baseline. Then when you’re done with your break, go back to your learning and check.

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Go back over what you already know. Go back to bare basics. Check your notes and then look to see if there’s anything else available that goes over the same stuff that you were confused or were feeling frustrated about in a different way, in a different format even.

Is there an essay online? Is there a video? Is there somebody who says, you know, this topic was covered on this podcast and it was really good. Okay, great, great. Go look that up.

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Come at it from a different angle, a different direction. Patty said, I hate how the generic advice of just go outside is genuinely helpful. I know, right? Isn’t that awful? It’s the worst.

She says, actually good advice, but it’s thrown around as the fix-all for everything and I hate that. Yeah, go outside, take a break, drink some water, do some exercise, like get your heart pumping a little bit and then come back to what you were trying to learn. It’s easier.

It sucks. I hate that that all works. It also all works for if you’re feeling depressed.

Fog. Like it works for pretty much anything that your brain is doing that you don’t want your brain to be doing. Anytime your brain or your limbic system is like throwing a hissy fit, go outside, eat a snack, drink some water, do something to get your heart rate up.

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It all fucking works. It’s so annoying. Like god damn it.

And yes, that includes trying to learn something new about technology. If you reach the point of frustration that you’re like, I can’t do this. And you’re like, you know, crying or screaming or you just want to throw things, take a fucking break because you’re not going to learn anything.

You’re not going to make any forward progress. You’re too frustrated for that. So adult learners.

Repetition is key. Being aware of the fact that as an adult learner, it will take you longer to learn new information than it would take someone who is younger than you to learn the same information. That doesn’t mean you can’t learn it.

It just means you have to go over it a few more times. That’s all neuroplasticity. It’s a bitch.

It declines for everyone. So all those young people out there who are like, it’s easy. You just do this.

Yeah, well, someday they’re going to be 70 and stupid. So it’s fine. When in doubt, take a break, set a timer so that you don’t like just take a break and never come back.

Tempting though that may be. But yeah, as an adult, you can learn new things. It’s hard.

It’s frustrating. It’s obnoxious. It’s annoying.

Yeah. So like I said, there’s black lines through all the text, all the LW sites. I think it’s because the document.write command in JavaScript is now deprecated.

And I definitely know what those words mean. Send an email to support at enchantrixempire.com. And that will go straight to our IT dude who will fix it. Through the magic of IT shit.

I have not learned JavaScript. I’m very proud of the fact that I don’t know JavaScript and I refuse to know JavaScript because I don’t want to. I’m demotivated.

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There’s no AI. And it’s full of perverts. You will be right at home.

Check out my blog, fetishphonesexblog.com. Don’t forget, you can always call me and talk to me about all sorts of things. I’m very easy to talk to. I promise.

800-601-7259 will get you to me. Thank you guys for listening to whore school. I hope you learned something.

And if you didn’t, it’s not my fault. Thank you guys for listening. I will be back again next week, possibly with hair care tips.

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Good night.

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