WS 511 Distance Domination

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WS 511 Distance Domination

 

In a slightly rambly discourse across the hour Ms Harper explains what Distance Domination is and why both a stigma against BDSM and sex workers may lead a person to assume that intimacy with a paid expert “doesn’t count”. Of course it does ‘count’, as anything you experience that changes your brain chemistry is a real thing! The value in Distance Domination isn’t undercut or rendered null just because you have an orgasm.

 

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We love a good sting. This is Whore School coming to you live. I am inviting everyone, come forth, join us.

There’s always a lot of typing at the beginning of the show and it’s because I have to go to all of the social media sites that will let me log in. Log in to them. Log in.

Oh, okay. I’m fine. I’m fine.

I’m perfectly normal about the fact that this fucking website won’t let me log in. The action requested is invalid. You know what? Fuck off.

Fuck you. Fuck this. Fuck off.

Yep. Twitter’s like, something went wrong. No, wait.

Is it working? There it goes. It actually loaded. Holy shit.

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It’s driving me insane. Twitter’s being a twatter. There we go.

Okay. Everything’s in. Ugh.

Ugh. Pooverins had tell us the offending website will bring it to its knees. Twitter.

Twatter. X. I refuse to call it X. It’s fucking Twitter. So far in the chat tonight, Goddess’s little giggle slut is in here.

Hallie, the sweet girl, Pooverin, the sneeze, and Tina. Hi guys. Sup gang.

You can hear my cat. Oh my God. Really? Please stop trying to open Facebook.

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She’s rubbing her face very aggressively on the phone because she’s an ass. Thanks, baby. Good job.

Okay. Now she opened the camera. She wants to be a star.

You little jerk. For a teeny tiny little bitty cat, she gets into a lot of trouble. I’m just saying.

Yeah. Right now the chat is yelling at Elon for being a schmuck and Marky Z for also being a schmuck. Giggle slut said I’m workshopping a way to make Tesla owners know how I feel about them without implicating myself.

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Oh, I just flip them off. As soon as I found out that the Cybertruck has cameras, I was like, oh good. It’ll be recorded.

Hey Addie. Welcome in. So somewhere there exists in the vast labyrinthine archives of recorded video from a Cybertruck footage of me in a, I think a Lowe’s parking lot, flipping off a truck, a Cybertruck with both hands alongside my friend who was also flipping off a Cybertruck with both hands.

Giggle slut said it involves a secret agent change of clothes and a carton of eggs. Paintball gun. Just saying.

Paintball gun. Also those things rust like a son of a bitch. So if you have the capacity to get like a, like a water balloon, like a water balloon and put Brasso in it, you can do some fun things to the finish on a, on a Cybertruck.

Addie said they rust. Yeah. There’s some fun things you could do to vehicles.

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Traditionally painted vehicles. If you put the cheapest possible baloney you can get your hands on, like on the hood of the car, especially in the summertime in the sun, it’ll eat the paint off in circles. I’ll have a polka dotted vehicle.

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Poohverin said I saw a lime green Cybertruck the other day and I thought they couldn’t get any uglier. Yeah. That’s a custom jobby.

They had that thing wrapped. Good news. The wrap doesn’t last very long.

Like if you’re far enough North where you don’t have the strong UV, it might last up to five years. But if you’re in Texas that lasts about a year before the UV degrades the wrap enough that it just starts coming off and then it looks like your car is shedding. Yeah.

The, the cameras on the Cybertruck and the fact that there’s so many cameras everywhere nowadays, I’m like, come on y’all. I saw a screenshot of a, um, a social media post from somebody who was like, this person is, is a legend. And they were quoting somebody who was at one of the, um, like a, a city hall meeting about the flock cameras and quoted the guy who’s saying, look, I’m hungry, but I just wanted to let everybody know that there’s about two or three pounds of copper and a couple of grams of gold in every flock camera.

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Chef’s kiss. Brilliant. It’s fucking funny.

Oh God. Okay. So we’re supposed to be discussing distance domination tonight because I saw a video online of somebody saying something that made me angry.

Oh, you get the fruit of me basically preaching to the choir over here. They said, essentially people who only have sex with prostitutes don’t learn how to have good sex because the sex that you have with the prostitute is by definition, not good sex. Therefore, in order to learn good sex, you have to have good sex, but sex with the prostitute isn’t good sex.

Now I’m sure you can see the point at which I went, what? So we’re just, you, Giggleslut says, did they define good sex? No. Which is another thing. You know me, I define my fucking terms.

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Giggleslut says, oh, so he’s full of shit then. No, no. And then, and then Giggleslut said, I’m assuming it’s a he.

No, it was a woman, a female, a woman who has never done sex work. And that’s the important part of that. I think people who have never, there’s, there’s something about sex work and the sexual interactions and the intimate interactions that people have with a paid professional that makes them think it doesn’t count.

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It’s not real. It’s not real sex. It’s not real good sex.

And especially if it happens over the phone, and then it doesn’t count twice somehow, because everything you do on the phone is fake. Somehow. I don’t know.

I pay my bills on the phone. So I certainly do take that money. Yeah.

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And he says, I wouldn’t assume men in this context. There are a lot of women who criticize sex work. Uh-huh.

There sure are. There are a lot, especially women who have never done sex work, criticize sex work. There’s a reason why there are TERFs, which are trans exclusionary radical feminists, and SWERFs, which are sex worker exclusionary radical feminists.

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TERFs and SWERFs, we hate them. Well, we get grumpy at them. Hey, Kylie, look at me.

I’m recognizing your, your profile pic. I was like, that’s Kylie. Let me double check.

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Yeah. And he said, you pay bills with your phone? Yeah. Apps, I call my providers.

I can also, you can get on the internet on smartphones nowadays. So I can just call up their webpage and pay my bills. So yeah.

Uh-huh. Google says, I mean, even with y’all, I did have reservations about calling. I worried y’all wouldn’t actually care about me.

And I found out I need emotional connections to fully enjoy stuff. Legit. And in fact, I, yeah, that’s completely a thing.

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So first up is let’s talk about what’s distance domination. BDSM, domination and submission, role play, or power exchange games that don’t take place in the same room. There’s space between the person doing the dominant stuff and the person doing the submissive stuff.

And this can be the next room over, or it could be different cities. It could be across the world. Really? Okay.

This cat was mad at me earlier in the day because I put flea control on her, but obviously she has forgiven me. Probably helps that I went and found where she curled up on my pillow in my bed and rubbed all the flea control off of herself onto my pillow. Thank you.

You little furry butthole. I guess I like you. Oh, it was, let’s says if someone makes a claim without defining what they mean, be wary.

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They’re either stupid or a scammer and both can be bad to interact with online. Sometimes they’re just thoughtless. They’re not thinking about it and they’re not used to a slightly more academic sort of a framework.

This is her school emphasis on the school part. So I always define my terms just to make it very abundantly clear. And I find that it helps with really clear communication.

So sometimes in real life, I will ask for a pause and a stop while we hammer out exactly what we mean when we say various terms. Coober has to give his dog his heartworm prevention, right? It sneaks up on you and then you’re like, oh shit, the expensive meds. Om nom nom.

All done? Okay. Now she’s going to fall off the couch. That’s great.

Idiot cat. So this person, female person who very authoritatively declared that you cannot learn how to have good sex from a professional. There’s a very obvious problem with that sentence.

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You cannot pay a professional to teach you how to do a thing. They’re a pro. They’re good enough to make money doing this.

I think they know what they’re doing. You can absolutely learn skills from someone that you pay to teach you. And it doesn’t matter if they’re teaching you crochet, if they’re teaching you how to paint, if they’re teaching you woodworking, advanced accounting, if they’re teaching you how to give a blowjob.

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Of course you can learn good sex skills from a professional. Ugh. Sigh.

Aw, Giggle Slut. Sweetie. Giggle Slut said, I didn’t know some people didn’t do this.

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If I’m talking about something, especially at work, and something comes up that I don’t know fully or might be wrong about, I’ll say that. Like I’ll legit say, I’ll need to double check that specific detail. Do most people not do that? No, they don’t.

And in fact, if they are slightly wrong and you call them on it, they get upset. Because being wrong or right is a hallmark of whether or not they’re a good person. In much the same way as having money makes you a person and being pretty makes you a good person, being right about things also makes you a good person.

And therefore, if you call somebody on it and say, hey, you had that one little detail wrong, they get mad at you because you’ve implied they’re not a good person. In a lot of ways, the unspoken rules of our society are really fucking dumb. Really fucking dumb.

Callie says, freaking psychos. I know, right? Giggleslut said, don’t people have some backwards expectations of sex as like not a skill in that sense? Feels like that line of thinking has puritanical roots. Oh, it absolutely does.

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It is all rooted in the idea that sex is shameful and having expertise at sex is extra shameful and bad somehow. How dare you be good at a thing that almost everybody really wants to do a whole lot. I keep rolling my eyes.

I’m going to give myself eye strain. Poovy said, that’s kind of universal. People thinking that they know better than the professionals that get it all the time at work from customers.

Some are good and say, thank you for helping me. But there are an equal amount who think, I don’t know what I’m talking about. Yes.

Oh God. It’s been ages since I had to work retail, but I remember it and it wasn’t very fun. Addie says, not to go on a huge rant, but I think that people who criticize sex work focus too much on the historical, exploitative, and abusive aspects of it and make a generalization that women somehow have no agency or autonomy.

So of course all prostitutes must hate their job and just do or whatever men do to them like dead fish. Sitting, hey, sitting bull. When did you get here? He says, it makes me chuckle when people go to experts and then argue with them.

Right? Every now and then I get people who try to tell me how to do my job, this job, the phone sex job. They’re like, oh, well you should do this. You should advertise about this.

This is how you should, you should arrange things. This is the marketing that you should do. And I’m like, no, no, no, it’s not going to work that way.

I’m sorry. No, I actually do know my business. So nice of you to be concerned.

So now that we know exactly what distance domination is, it combination play that takes place in two different locations. Is it real? I mean, okay, we could get pretty deep, right? On like the, the nature of reality. Is any of this real? Because you know, in Buddhism, it says that everything that we are experiencing, because we experience it as interpreted through our bodies and into our minds, instead of direct, immediate experiencing, everything is interpreted and therefore everything is just a little bit delayed and put off from immediate reality.

Everything is an illusion. Nothing is real. Everything is interpreted through the lens of the mind.

And therefore, none of this is real. This is none of this is real. Sorry.

We could go deep on that. Like, that’s a fun topic to explore. Absolutely.

Let’s discuss. Is this samsara? What is the nature of maya? But yeah, distance domination is absolutely fucking real. It’s real in the same way that, um, everything else that you experience is real.

If you are sitting there, and it has an effect on you, and it makes your pulse race, and you get a little bit sweaty, and you feel something like you have some sort of an emotional or mental, mental reaction to what’s happening. It’s motherfucking real, bitches. Tina says, Are we in the matrix? Technically, we can’t prove that we’re not.

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Oh, maybe. Hi. You are so noisy.

Why are you talking? She’s just decided to be talking. She’s like talking, talking, talking. I’m trying to read up in the chat and catch up on things.

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Hooverin said, Am I a man dreaming he’s a butterfly or a butterfly dreaming he’s a man? What’s really fun, you can’t prove either one in either direction. So maybe. God, brains are so fucking weird.

This niece says, I’d love a full ontology episode. I would break some people’s brains. You know I would be great.

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Giggle Slut says, Hot take. The Matrix is not a good movie. Bite your tongue.

Is so. Love that movie. As a trans allegory.

Oh, so good. Anyways. Tina says the cat wants to be in Whore School.

She does. She’s like, I should be on the microphone. Let me speak.

I have words to say. And he says, I like it, but not that much. That’s fine.

I like the first one a whole lot better than all of the sequels. There, I said it. Anyways.

So, um, is it real? Yeah. Over on Whoreschool.net, I said to her, just go with Descartes. It’s faster.

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Think, therefore I am. Does, do you experience this? Yes. Great.

It’s real. It’s just faster. A little bit simplistic and we’re leaving aside things like, um, Okay.

We’re not going to even open the bag of worms that is hallucinatory experiences or altered states of consciousness. Although we totally could because BDSM does induce those. Is it real? Yes.

It’s real. Is distance domination real? Yes. Can you learn things from it? Absolutely.

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Yep. Just, yeah. Yep.

You’re good. I came for the not safe for work, but stayed for the philosophical analysis. I just don’t like people who genuinely believe we live in a simulation because it’s not a productive line of thought.

The fun thing is we can’t prove that we’re not in a simulation and it’s because by actual like rules of logic, you cannot prove a negative. So we can’t prove that we’re not in a simulation and it’s the not. There’s no definitive proof that we’re not in a simulation.

We might be. It would be a really, really, really, really complex one. But then again, if you’re on the inside of it, would you notice? Who knows? So we can’t prove that we’re not living in a simulation, but because we cannot prove it one way or the other, because we also can’t prove that we are definitely living in a simulation because there’s always the, the, the standard that it would have to reach in order for the proof to be accepted as solid proof.

It’s really fucking high. We can’t prove this. So Google Slip says, well, technically you can prove a negative in certain circumstances.

It’s just impossible. Most of the time, Hey, I’m talking about like formal logic. And yes, it is.

You’ve got to put the little most asterisk, like you’re going to put the little caveat on there to cover your ass because it is formal logic. But most of the time you cannot prove a negative, which is also why we can’t walk around and be like, um, like the ancient aliens theory. You can’t prove it never happened.

It could have. How the fuck do you prove a negative? You can’t. I can’t prove it didn’t happen.

I, I also, um, have really solid theories for most of the things I was watching ancient aliens earlier today. I have really solid theories for most of the things that they’re like, it was aliens. I’m like, or it was people.

We don’t know how they built Stonehenge. It’s a mystery. Lots of people, many people with long rollers and a lot of work.

We know how they built Stonehenge. Sorry. Hoover ends it.

We take in information through our senses, but our senses are fallible. So are the things we see here and feel really real or corrupted sensations? Dun, dun, dun. Um, say that’s the fun.

That’s the fun part. How much do you trust your senses? How much do you trust your ability to pay attention to what’s going on around you? What are the odds that what you see and hear and feel and touch? Is that real? I love that shit. Oh, he’s so good.

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Yeah. Do you still need some attention? Okay. Yeah.

Addy was saying that, that the simulation probably wouldn’t work with everybody in it, but see, I don’t like that idea because it says that if I’m in a simulation, I’m the only real one. Right. It’s a simulation for me with everything around me is being simulated and that leads to other people aren’t people, which I follow the Terry Pratchett rule.

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Evil begins when you start treating people like things. And if we’re, I’m in a simulation and all of you are just simulated to give me something to interact with, that means none of you are real. None of you are people.

And therefore it doesn’t matter how I treat you because you’re not a person. And that’s gross. I reject that one out of hand on account of, ew, icky.

Google says, wait, Terry Pratchett said that? Yes, he did. He put it in the words of Nanny Og, I do believe, who said it in one of the witch’s books. Or if it wasn’t Nanny Og, it was Granny Weatherwax who said it.

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To like a religious figure in the book. She was like, no, no, all true evil comes down to basically one thing and it is treating people like things. That’s where it all begins.

As soon as you treat a person like a thing, that’s evil. Yep. Yep.

Completely agree with that. Yes. Google says, was that in the Discworld? Hell yeah, it was in Discworld.

Possibly the best set of books for reading about morality and law and human nature ever. Terry Pratchett, GNU. Hell yeah.

They’re not in your library and you can’t find them anywhere. Get your library to get them in for you. Interlibrary loan exists.

You go up to the desk and you tell them, I would like to read the Terry Pratchett books, the Discworld books. And they’ll be like, oh yeah, sure. Let’s get those in for you.

Cause it’s a library. They exist to do this. Go ask for it.

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Because they are worth it. Tina said, psychopath mental disorders, uh, treat people like things. Um, they often treat people like things.

They treat themselves like a thing too. Like psychopathy, um, and antisocial behavior, uh, which is the more modern term for it. And a social personality disorder.

Um, they don’t see people as people. People are just things. I’m going to say something really mean about Republicans.

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Hi. Okay. You’re, you’re very sweet tonight.

Poovoran said most libraries nowadays have ebook lending as well. Yeah. You can get a little app on your phone and then you can get all sorts of books.

Gigglesut said your cat doesn’t want you to say mean things about people. Oh, she says mean things about people all the time. That’s pretty hilarious.

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She’s very antisocial. She only likes me. She only likes me.

She doesn’t like you. If you were here, she’d be like, bye. And she’d hide under the bed.

Legit. Legit. It’s a good response to have to a stranger danger.

Eddie said, is she antisocial or misanthropic? Antisocial. Very antisocial. She doesn’t want to socialize with you.

So on the subject of expertise and why we should respect it. Western society and culture has a strong tendency to disregard expertise when it comes to things like sex and sexuality. It is looked down upon because sex and sexuality itself is looked down upon.

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It’s not seen as something that people should want to be interested in because it’s sinful. Earlier in the chat, Kali said, fuck John Calvin. You’re prescient.

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You were early. I was getting to that. Honestly, fuck John Calvin.

Fuck the Puritans. And fuck people who are like, oh, but anybody who’s really interested in sex and sexuality is a dirty, dirty pervert. And you should never trust an expert in sex, sexuality and intimacy.

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Ew. Gross. You’re all supposed to fuck like God intended.

Badly. With only one person. Forever.

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Ah, Eddie said, that’s a fun voice. Thank you. Yeah, I cuss a lot.

You get me pissed off enough word. My language gets salty, like seawater. That’s why sailors cuss a lot.

They’re salty. Oh, okay. So, uh, Google Slot said fun is sinful.

Some idiot that so many people decided to believe for some fucking reason. There’s reasons why, um, that there’s a reason. There are reasons why that kind of idea is so pervasive and it’s rooted in people who have no control over the world.

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The world is seen as a series of supernatural forces that impact you in ways that you cannot predict or understand. And so trying to codify things down if you do this, good things happen. If you do this, bad things happen.

A kind of magical control over the world, or at least control over yourself in an attempt to ward off bad things is what people do when they feel powerless. And it also explains why there are resurgences of that sort of thinking ever so often. Like right now, we have a resurgence of, you know, the, the trad wife idea, um, of, um, incels and the male loneliness epidemic and all of this.

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It’s all Puritanism repackaged for the modern age. Hang on. Really? What are you doing, baby? Okay.

There. Is that better? That should be better, right? All right. The ancient dog was trying to rearrange the blanket on the couch, only all she was doing was balling it up into more of a mess so that it wasn’t very comfy.

And so then she was trying to spread it out, but she just balled it up even tighter. You’re okay. Go to sleep.

Good girl. You’re back. Great.

Cat’s back. Giggle Slut said, I hate that there’s a real and sad explanation for my dumb comment. Yeah.

It’s people who feel powerless and out of control attempting to exert control over forces that they don’t understand and don’t feel that they have control over. Giggle Slut said, wait, am I out of touch? Isn’t the loneliness epidemic a real thing? Like on average people, not just men, are reporting less fulfilling relationships. Not really.

It’s getting reported more and there are more people yelling about it. But the divorce rate has not gone up. Like not appreciably over previous years.

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Divorce rate is actually fairly low right now. Currently. People are still getting in relationships.

Dating apps happen. The reason why you hear more about the loneliness epidemic is because they want people to feel that kind of existential pressure of, Oh, I’m not in a relationship. Therefore there must be something wrong with me.

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Therefore I must be lonely. And also like Kelly said, the lack of third spaces is real. Yes.

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So a third space is, so home, work, a third space. They still exist. Bars, libraries, clubs.

They’re not as diverse as they used to be in years past. There used to be a whole lot more different types of places that you could go to. Things are becoming far more homogenized and makes it feel like there are fewer of them.

But there are still places to go and socialize and hang out with people. There’s a problem with third spaces for people who are not my target demographic. Hint, hint, nudge, nudge.

And there’s also a problem right now with people feeling over observed. The panopticon effect is real. There are so many security cameras, ring cameras, doorbell cameras, flock cameras, everywhere being used to actively surveil us all.

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It induces a kind of a state of paranoia and it makes people, when you feel paranoid, you feel disconnected from the world. Also post COVID people are more disconnected from the world. They’re not reaching out and they’re not going out and deliberately doing things.

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How many clubs are you a member of? How many sports with other people do you participate in? Do you belong to a gym? Do you go to the library? Do you take advantage of any of the events or classes that your local library system hosts? Because all of these are options. They still exist. But things are still out there.

Go forth. Uh-huh. Giggle Slut says, I get it.

It’s not easy to just join in an established space that I’m not familiar with and feel like I belong there. I’d be out of place anywhere I try to go. Everybody feels that way.

It is awkward as hell to try to start socializing with people and making new friends. It only gets harder the older you get. Making friends is really fucking difficult.

You have to budget yourself some time and energy that you can spend and devote to. I’m going to go make friends now. So joining a club, getting involved in an organized event and deliberately going and doing it is a key way to do so.

Every week. It’s not a one and done. When you were in school, in primary schooling, secondary schooling, you were hanging out with the same group of people for many hours a day every single day.

That makes it really easy to make friends because you have all of that time and you’re stuck in a room with them for hours upon hours upon hours. That’s why it was so easy to make friends. You made friends with the people that are around you.

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Now, who’s around you? Who do you spend time with? Do you talk to your neighbors? Do you talk to the people who live right next door to you? Do you know their names? They live right there. You gotta go make friends, man. The elderly dog stepped on the cat.

It was fucking funny. You got stepped on. Too bad.

So sad. And he says, we don’t do that in Brasilia. We don’t talk to neighbors.

It’s illegal here. Oh God. Well, now I know why the elderly dog got up.

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Damn, baby. Woof. That was an epic fart.

Holy hell. Are you okay? That’s what happens when a dog gets really old. The farts just get worse.

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So the expertise of a person who’s really good at this is how to build intimacy and this is how to build a relationship. Right? Sup? How you doing? Yeah. Kylie said, having an activity does help take the pressure off of meeting new people.

It really does. The thing is, it is hard. Meeting new people and making new friends is very, very difficult.

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But consider the reason why I do the job that I do. I do phone sex. I do distance domination over the phone and internet.

And I do this because it’s easier. Going to your first kinky munch or going to your very first BDSM play party can be really intimidating. Because imagine the first time you go to a Dungeons and Dragons meetup.

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Right? The first time you go to a board game collective to go play board games for a while. That’s scary and intimidating because, oh God, oh God, people, they’re going to look at me and they’re going to think about me and they’re going to judge me. Oh shit.

It’s scary as hell. Okay. Now imagine some of these people are going to be naked doing sexualized things.

That’s worse. It’s so much worse. It is anxiety inducing.

It’s fucking scary. Or you can pick up a phone and give me a call. That’s way less scary.

It takes a lot of the fear away, a lot of the anxiety, a lot of the, well, what if they don’t like me? Maybe you’re paying by the minute to talk to me. I like you. At least I like you enough to talk to you for $2.99 a minute.

You don’t have to worry about offending me. I’m a professional. I guarantee somebody said something worse than whatever you thought might be offensive to me.

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I am professionally unflappable. You’re not going to make me go, I’ve never heard of that before. Unless your kink or fetish is truly odd, like way the hell out there.

I don’t run into new stuff very often. Every now and then I do, and it is a delight and a treat because wow, what an interesting way to engage in your kink. I am so fascinated by this.

That’s so cool. Tell me absolutely everything about the thing that I’d never heard of before, because this is awesome. I’m so into this.

Genuinely, I want to know. Yeah, I want to know everything. Everything you feel like telling me.

Every single detail. Yes, please. I missed something in the chat.

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Giggleslit said, I looked at going to a munch, but backed out because the people, only people seeming like they were interested were in their 60s. Look for a TNG group. TNG, the letters T N G means the next generation.

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Yep. Oftentimes it’s a group for kinksters under 35. Younger kinksters.

You hit 35, you age out, and then you’re just, I’m sorry, you’ve got to go play with the old wrinkly people now. Yeah, Tina says, I’m too old for TNG. I know.

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Giggleslit. Yeah, it’s really difficult. Post COVID, a lot of the groups imploded.

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People got out of the habit of going to events. And so they just kind of stopped. They stopped having them.

My advice would be start one. Ah, you’re back again. Hi, baby.

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You feeling better? I know what you did to my carpet in the bedroom. You’re why I own a steam cleaner. You gross little bugger.

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You can always start a group for whatever age group you happen to be in. We like dirty old pervert kinkster group for 60 to 75 year olds. Yeah, sure.

Go for it. Why not? Giggleslit doesn’t have the confidence to do it. It takes time.

It takes practice in order to build up the confidence to do it. And a certain level of not giving a fuck. Anxiety is often rooted in, oh no, what are these people going to think about me? I’m probably going to think that you’re horny.

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Next. Yeah. At a certain point, you have to own it.

And you have to just be willing to fuck it. Bulldoze through whatever awkwardness is happening inside of you. Just get it fucking done.

Just do it. Just go forth. Do the thing.

Pony up, bitch. I’m kidding. Giggles.

Except for, no, really. The key to adulthood is sometimes you just have to do it scared. Poveruno is saying to post and see if there’s interest in that.

He said, post where though? Fetlife. F-E-T-L-I-F-E. Fetlife.

It’s for kinksters. In some areas, it’s still pretty active. Other areas, less active.

Especially post COVID. Also Fetlife. I could advertise on Fetlife and it will be integrated into the main feed, the main activity feed on Fetlife, where anybody can see it.

They went for money instead of remaining a purely community-based site. So pros are on there. And again, we’re going to circle right back around to our main theme for the evening is BDSM professionals.

Is that real? Is that really real? Or is that fake BDSM? Which also circles around to the idea of we run into it. You’ll run into it here in the server every now and then. You’ll see somebody who joins and then immediately gets offended at the idea that in order to talk to one of us, you have to pay money.

Because the only kind of BDSM or DS that counts should be the kind that is free. Because then there’s no ulterior motive. Right? I’m not pretending to be into you in order to get something out of you.

You’re money. Right? If there’s no money being exchanged, then it’s more real. To which I can only say, bullshit.

There’s always an ulterior motive in every single interaction that you have. If I don’t want money out of you, I want something else out of you. Then trust me, your dick ain’t that good.

Your dick is especially not that good from across the room, much less across the nation. Uh-uh. All of the servers on Discord, all of the places, all of the forums, all of the websites where you can go and you can start talking to people and they’re like, I’m really into your penis.

I’m super horny for it and I want it. That’s a dude. That’s a man.

That’s a man pretending to be a woman because it gets him off. You want to talk to an actual woman about your dick? I’m sorry, baby, but we’re tired. We’re tired.

We don’t want to talk to you about your penis for free. If I wanted to do that, shit. I mean, do you want to know how many messages I get a day? Lots.

I’m nice to people and polite to people. I indulge them at least five minutes worth, but if you want more than that, you gotta pay for my time. You want to talk to a woman with my level of skills? I know my value.

You’re gonna pay for it. And that does not devalue me, and it does not devalue my skills. And trust me, all those sites where you get somebody who’s like, oh yeah, I’m a girl, and I’m, um, like, E cup boobs.

They don’t even know how big an E cup actually is. I’m like a 37, 16, 29. Okay, sure you are.

Those are unrealistic measurements, but okay. And I’m, um, six foot tall, and I wear a size five shoe. Really? Okay, sure thing.

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And I’m gonna suck your dick as a dominant. For free. For free.

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Kylie said, if it’s not at least 37, 16, 35, I’m just not interested. I like big butts, and I cannot lie. So, yeah, um, just, just real, pay attention.

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Addie said, I feel like we talked a lot about a lot of things, but not really about the topic. Oh no, we did. Distance domination is absolutely real, and pay attention to the ways in which sex work, in particular, is devalued.

Because, just because you exchange money to get it, and it involves sex and sexuality and intimacy, doesn’t cheapen it. It doesn’t make it less real. It doesn’t mean that all of a sudden I no longer give a shit about you.

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I absolutely do. I will talk to you about whatever. Right? Yes.

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You want to share recipes? Fuck yeah, let’s do that. It’s just if you want to talk about your dick. Pay me.

Sigh that comes from the deep within my soul. You gotta pay for that part, man. You gotta pay me to talk about your penis.

About your genitalia in general. That goes for pretty much everyone at this point. I’ve had friends who’ve tried to talk to me about things, and I’m like, no, I’m sorry.

I do this for money. I’m not doing it for free. They’re like, but I didn’t think you were an in-person professional.

I’m like, I am now. I am. Especially if you want me to look at your penis.

I need money. I don’t do that for free. Ever.

Gimme. Gigglesluts says being put up with is a hell of a terrible feeling that I know all too well. Yeah.

No, I like talking to everybody. I just don’t want to talk to you about your genitalia outside of a session. Please and thank you.

Thanks. Oh, it’s called boundary sweaty. Can we talk about somebody else’s genitalia then? It doesn’t have to be mine.

Only if it’s funny. Gigglesluts doesn’t understand cup sizes. Okay.

Well then I will talk about that for next week. How’s that? We’ll talk about broth sizes. Gigglesluts says there’s so many letters, so it makes me think the sizes are super different.

Then I’m reading erotica, and people sometimes are treating a B like it’s super small, and then it’s big enough, and then a bunch or double D, and it’s just messy. Part of that is personal taste. Some people think a B is plenty big, and some people think a B is kind of small.

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And part of that is it’s probably erotica written by a dude who doesn’t understand broth sizes. He’s just making some shit up. All right.

Whore school is adult sex education, and occasionally me yelling about how much I dislike John Calvin, because honestly, fuck that dude. Thank you guys for listening. Whore school will be back again next week, probably to talk about bras and sizing, because that’s also a whole fucking rant.

Wait till you find out what universal sizing conventions don’t exist. Thank you all for listening. Please wash your ass.

Stay six feet away from people you don’t live with. And let’s see. What else? Use a condom.

I’ll talk to you next week. Good night.

 

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